i agree completely...i sign my name as a 'psudeo' but not to tell people how i am feeling about myself...
being proactive means learning how to accept yourself and to adjust your expectations of others and how you are feeling about situations, ie. how YOU look upon a situation, you can choose to let it bother you or not. You can choose to walk away or not, you can choose to associate with bad peer pressures or not, you have the power at all times.
I know that at any time I can choose to forget about my neck and try to live life as best as i can with what i have, it is hard though, to let it all go, to STOP being victimized over and over again to keep your self depressed. we have to learn how to move on and leave it all behind, easier said than done. we get into bad learned behaviors a comfort zone, where we need to learn how to leave it behind....
i have been to shrinks for 25 yrs, on and off.. they all told me the same thing, what Eleanor Roosevelt said also, NOBODY CAN MAKE YOU FEEL BAD about YOURSELF WITH OUT YOUR PERMISSION....
think about those.... are strong words and words that you can live by if you try. GET RID OF OLD FRIENDS who keep you down or want to see you suffer. tell people you are moving on with your life and going back to school ( dont let anyone tell you are too old or stupid or to this or too this not to do it) or joining clubs, or begin a new job or a new hobby, make it so for each person who says you cant do it , prove to them they are wrong and look them in the eye and say oh yes i can do it you watch me!!!!!
write 'i love me' on the refrig, write-I am ready to accept all things postive and beautfil in the world, and others.
think about this one---if there are close to 6 billion people in the world today, at least 2 billion of them you can be sure are living in huts and have nothing to their name, no bathrooms no meds, no clothing, no food,
well what have you got? EXPECT TO BE HAPPIER WITH LESS if need be. let us be grateful for those things we have.
yes it could be better, but it could also be worse.
let us all write some of our own positive affirmations:
I LOVE MYSELF FOR WHO I AM AND I ACCEPT MYSELF AS I AM
I TAKE FULL RESPONSIBILITY FOR MY FEELINGS AND ACTIONS
PAY IT FORWARD- DO SOMETHING NICE FOR SOMEONE ELSE WITH OUT EXPECTING SOMETHING FOR IT