Thanks, Judy. Good description of Schizoaffective!
Jules: Hope things are better at your house. Don't know how you manage 2 jobs, children at home, an upcoming wedding, and the caretaking your husband requires! Overwhelm and burnout for anybody with this kind of pressure/stress. Get some help.
I agree that your husband's meds need to be checked/adjusted asap. Am sure when he is rational, he is just as bothered by his behaviors as you and the rest of the family are. As for his diagnosis, I'm not sure anymore that it matters much. My husband's diagnosis has changed repeatedly, usually at his insistance, but the meds don't change a lot. Whatever chemical intervention it takes to help him control himself - and a good pdoc is your (and his) best resource.
Hang in there ... it really can be easier as some of these issues get resolved.