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Date Joined Sep 2006
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   Posted 9/18/2006 5:09 PM (GMT -6)   
I am 26, l have a full time government job, i have a College Diploma, i own my own car, everything seems really good, i even have the two bestest friends in the world.  BUT, this is my story...
I grew up with two older brothers, the oldest was my hero, by best friend, i did everything with him and he took me everywhere even though i was 8 years younger then him.  He found a girl that he loved had two children with her and even married after about 10 years of being with her.  He passed away from a rare Kidney failure 8 months after he married.  He left a 3 year old son and a 8 year old daughter, who are now 10 & 15.  His wife has anixety attacks and does not work now due to the attacks.  The children don't have the best environment to grow up in but my other brother and myself make sure we do the best we can for them.  Which has included Hockey and Soccer for the son and taking my neice into my house and making sure she has everything she needs for school and her social life.  I feel very frustrated with this part of my life, but the story continues.... I have moved home to my parents house due to my debt, I can't get a head of my debt due to looking after my neice and nephews needs.  My father is an alcoholic and has a stroke, so he does not work either.  My Mom, the greatest women in my world, is very strong and i am not worried about her at all.  IN the last 7 years she has lost her son, her mother and her father and keeps a smile on her face, even married to an alcoholic, to try to get to the point of this,  am I a winer or what?  Am i on the wrong site to be talking about this.  I do not believe I am a depressed person, but I do feel I would like to talk to someone that might actually understand my situation.  I have cut this short, so that someone will actually read this, and if they need me to go on, i will.  Thank you

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Date Joined Mar 2006
Total Posts : 8
   Posted 9/19/2006 1:30 AM (GMT -6)   
Hey worrywart,

No, you're not wrong in getting these things out and are certainly not a whiner. These are events that are affecting your life and keeping them in is bad for your mental health. My suggestion would be to see a counselor, not necessarily a psychologist but a social worker/therapist. There you can speak in confidence and they will work to help you work things out mentally. I have been through a lot in my life and feel the same way about my mother and whenever so much builds up inside, it's time to let it out before it's too late and it starts to control you. Best of luck mate.

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Date Joined Oct 2005
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   Posted 9/19/2006 10:08 AM (GMT -6)   

Hi worrywart, Welcome to healing well forum, we are happy to have you.  Your not on the wrong site so dont worry about that at all.  It seems that you try to find the positive things in your life but at the same time are frustrated by your circumstances.  Such as having to live with your parents, the death of your brother, becoming a parent to your niece and of course tremendous amounts of debt.  All of this is extremely stressful and you should try to seek out some counseling for yourself to help.  Just as icarus suggested.  We are always here if you need someone to talk to, vent or just someone to listen...take care 

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Date Joined Sep 2006
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   Posted 9/19/2006 10:52 AM (GMT -6)   
Thank you for the great advice and Thank you for making me feel so comfortable on this site!

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Date Joined Jul 2006
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   Posted 9/19/2006 1:29 PM (GMT -6)   
Hello worrywart. I am glad that you are here on this site seeking advice. I too think you should seek a counselor to help you since you ae facing some challenges in your life where you may need help emotionally. As far as helping the children and going into debt there are financial help for you generally through consumer credit to help you with the debt. There may be many programs available since the mother of the children is not working, to help her with financial aid for school supplies, clothes and food, or other necessities that the children may have. The children may also be able to obtain a check, since their mother is not working through social services, many churches will help as well in the community. I hope everything works out for you in the future. Take care Phoelona

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Date Joined Jan 2006
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   Posted 9/19/2006 1:54 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi worrywart

I would also like to add my welcome to the forum. I am sorry for what you are going through and agree that counselling would be good for you.
We are here to listen so post anytime.

Take care
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