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Date Joined Sep 2006
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   Posted 9/18/2006 10:30 PM (GMT -6)   
This is my first time on a forum like this.  my name is anthony and i work in a walgreens pharmacy.  i see people that are "depressed" several times a day, and i never thought that i would be one of them until now.  around the middle of july i broke up with my girlfriend cause i could have sworn on a stack of bibles that i meant the girl of my dreams.  in my mind she was everything i could ever want/need in a woman.  there was/is is small problem though.  she is one of the managers of the store, but that didnt stop  us.  i was ready to lay it all on the line for this woman.  The first date we had was awsome.  we drank a few beers and bs'ed about cars and life and such, and we even "fooled" around a lil bit.  After that night she stopped answering my phone calls never called me back and would barely talk to me at work.  she later appologiezed for this say she knows that pain she put me through and yada yada yada.  since she hung me out to dry the first time i have ran back to her once and had the same thing happen to me.  this is killing me.  i cant sleep i barely eat, and i always have this "anxious" feel most of the day.  its driving me up the wall, and i have no idea how to handle this.  if anyone can give me any advice i would truely appericate it.  thanx for your time guys

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   Posted 9/18/2006 11:36 PM (GMT -6)   

Glad to meet you, Anthony, and glad you found Healing Well. 

Sorry this lady has knocked the wind out of your sails, but despite your topic, I suspect you Do know what to do.  Go to work, do your job, talk with other friends, enjoy your Life.  The most attractive person around is the one having a good time.

Whether you've been officially diagnosed with depression/anxiety, or are dealing with a relationship situation right now, it is always good to talk about it - if for no other reason than to clarify why it is getting you down.  You are certainly welcome to do that here.  Since this has already been going on for a couple of months and is affecting your eating and sleeping habits, you'd probably benefit from a check up with your GP, too.  Perhaps some therapy would help you gain a better perspective.   :-)  


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Date Joined Sep 2006
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   Posted 9/19/2006 5:32 AM (GMT -6)   
try and stay busy, dont be alone if you can help it, if you have friends plan some fun things to think about. be lucky you found out before ya got real serious. i was dumped by email, and i was married to the woman. i am heartbroken and much older than you are im sure. its very hard to trust people, good luck to ya

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   Posted 9/19/2006 7:02 AM (GMT -6)   
You do not deserve to be treated like that. From a woman's point of view here: It sounds like there might be someone else. I do not know why girls/guys treat others like that but it happens.
My advice is to basically ignore her. If she is playing games and sees that you are not falling for them,or are acting like you are no longer interested this will catch her eye.
Do not try to call her. Act like you barely know her when you have to deal with her at work.
Be careful though,if she is treating you like this from the very beginning who is to say it will not continue throughout a serious relationship?
And do not set limits on yourself. Look around,they say that the person that you are meant to be with often is right in front of you and for some reason you do not even seen it.
Chronic Depression, Panic Attacks,Anxiety Attacks,Anorexia

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   Posted 9/19/2006 9:50 AM (GMT -6)   

Hi Anthony, Welcome to healing well, we are happy to have you.  I am sorry about what you are going through but I think you need to try to put the situation into perspective here.  She is the manager of your store...correct?  You’re an employee...correct?  I'm sure that Walgreen's most likely has a policy against management dating or fraternizing with employees.  Even though this didn’t stop her in the first place with your initial encounter perhaps this is why she has put the brakes on there after.  I don’t know.

I do know that it is never a good idea to date someone where you work as it can only cause trouble if it doesn’t work out.  And with her being in a management position you really have to be careful here.  I really believe that you should heed the advice given above and seek some counseling to help move on from this.  Please know that you are more than welcome to keep posting here...everyone is so supportive and caring and always willing to help. Take care

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New Member

Date Joined Sep 2006
Total Posts : 2
   Posted 9/19/2006 2:05 PM (GMT -6)   
well....guys i truely apperiacte you taking your time to relpy to me. i know that the situtation is a bad one between me and her. and in respone to you shny, i went for lik e two or three days not saying a thing to her, and she actually came up to me and said i hate that you dont talk to me anymore....anyway, your responses are apperiacted. hope to hear again from you guys =D.

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Date Joined Dec 2005
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   Posted 9/19/2006 9:30 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi Anthony. I'm sorry to hear about the pain your going through with this woman. I've dated a person I worked with in the past and I know how difficult it is when things don't work out. Its hard because you can't get away from the situation. I think she probably doesn't know how to handle it either and that might be part of the problem. Its hard to date someone you work with. My suggestion would be to transfer to a different store and move on with your life. Maybe if the two of you didn't work in the same place, you could see each other? Who knows. I just know that if the two of you continue on the road that you're on now, one of you will probably end up losing your jobs because its just too uncomfortable or because your emotions get in the way of your job. I ended up leaving my job because it was the only way I could get away from the situation. Good luck and best wishes.
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