please help me feel "normal"

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   Posted 9/22/2006 1:43 PM (GMT -6)   
just need to know that there are others out there that go through the same nightmare i go through almost every day.people think i'm lazy but they just don't get it. sad i would give anything to be "happy".i don't have people that understand that i can talk to,which makes things just that much harder.would love to talk to others that know.
-have had crohn's for 20 years
-tried everything from tube feeding,every med. and surgery
-had iliostomy surgery 4 years ago
-suffer from depression(on celexa)

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   Posted 9/22/2006 3:40 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi, I have crohn's also, been sick for 8 years. I had the depression/anxiety issuse first though. I also am on Celexa and I take Remeron at night. I know the crohn's sometimes can suck all of your energy. Some days I struggle to go to work and stay awake all day. I try and find happiness in the little things. Like hugging my cats every day when I get home from work. They are always so glad to see me. I know it's because that's when I feed them but I like to think they missed me too. I just wanted you to know that you indeed are not alone.

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   Posted 9/23/2006 10:28 AM (GMT -6)   

Hi faithlove, welcome to healing well we are happy to have you join us here.  I have had depression, anxiety/panic for many years also and understand the struggle that it takes to make it through the day and dealing with others who don’t quite get what you’re going though.  Every one of us here I'm sure have had someone at one time or another look at them as if there lazy or lack motivation when were actually dealing with depression and can’t help it.  Please know that there are many supportive people here that greatly understand just what you’re going through.  I hope you continue to post...Take care  :-)

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   Posted 9/24/2006 10:13 AM (GMT -6)   

Hi, Faith ... I have a permanent colostomy from cancer, not crohn's.  Managing an ostomy requires a lot of energy!

It would really hurt to be called "lazy."  Sorry there are people in this world who are so quick to judge when they have no background or experience in all you are dealing with on a daily basis. 

Glad you found Healing Well; you aren't alone with your struggles.


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   Posted 9/24/2006 11:44 AM (GMT -6)   
i understand you faithlove belive me, i know how it's a hard when people not understand what you feel. and i mast say somthimes peopple in this worls like say a galling words. and i get a advice on this forum, that i not need look attention that on speak about me, and this a a easy say and give that advize, but stil i can't not listen people, becouse i a human and for me important what people say about me.

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   Posted 9/27/2006 8:48 AM (GMT -6)   
I have also been accused of being lazy...until a doctor actually explained it to my husband. There are times when depression takes hold of me, and I find myslef completely emotionally unable to do anything. I'll look at the laundry and fell like if I truly started doing it, I'd have a breakdown.
I just started Lexapro, and I hope to feel much more able to cope with everyday things.

I SO completely understand. Have you spoken to a physician? I hope you find yourslef on the road to recovery soon.

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   Posted 9/27/2006 12:44 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi Faithlove,

Welcome to HW!

When I first started seeing my (now ex) partner, my depression was affecting me in very much this way, and the meds I was on helped lift the mood but almost seemed to exaccerbate the tiredness and inability to get on with things normally (which eventually led to a lowering of mood again!). While we were seeing each other I would try to get as much rest in advance as I could, just so that I could function ok while he was around. When he moved in I just couldn't keep up and I felt like such a fool. Finally I went back to my doc and poured my heart (and eyes!) out about what was going on. She realised before I did that the meds were not working and it was not just that I was taking ages to recover (bear in mind I'd been on the meds for a year by then!). Well, within days of coming off the old meds and starting on the new I felt *so* much better. So I guess what I'm saying is that I completely understand your frustration: this is such a feature of depression, and can be heightened by some meds with some people, and many people will never "get it" because, unless you have this condition, you just couldn't know what it feels like. BUT there is hope out there: came to me in the shape of citalopram/Celexa, but different meds work differently for different people, so it may take a bit of trial and error till you find the best ones for you.

I really hope you can get some relief from this.

Rosie x

People are not like fish: they do not work well battered.

When I'm not in my right mind, my left mind gets pretty crowded...


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