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Where's the Beautiful Escape?
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Date Joined Oct 2006
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   Posted 10/2/2006 7:51 PM (GMT -6)   
ok, so basically its like this.... im 17 now... i was diagnosed with depression when i was 13 or 14 and soon after that started taking zoloft for awhile. my parents said they noticed the difference but i didnt see the difference. after about 2 or 3 months i stopped taking the pills. my mom told me that i should go back on them and we just kept on arguing about it everytime she brought it up. ast foward a couple of years later, i have changed alot. started going to church and really cleaned up... or so i thought. i have been good for the last 1 1/2 or so but now my parents are getting divorced. i live with my dad, i changed high schools in my senior year ( my choice) due to alot of drama with "friends" and the fact that i wanted to get better grades in another high school i knew was easier. anyways besides the point. i work, i sleep and go to school. thats it! i sleep all the time and when im not sleeping im working. i have isolated myself from almost everyone around me and i dont go out more like i used to.... i dont know why all the sudden i feel helpless and just sad. no one seems to notice, i feel numb, and i dont know what to do, or who to talk to b/c it feels like no one understands.

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   Posted 10/2/2006 8:18 PM (GMT -6)   
You're probably feeling depressed now because you're parents are getting a divorce. It may seem a little overwhelming and you're sleeping because when you sleep, you don't have to deal with their situation.
I hope you realize that they are getting a divorce because of them. You have no control over that. It's not because of you.
This may not help a lot, but a lot of parents get divorced. Every child handles divorce differently. And therein lies the key.
It's like sail boats on the ocean. The wind blows on all the sail boats. Why do some boats go in one direction and others in another? It's because of the set of each boat's sail. Every captain has to decide how they will set their sail as the wind blows them about.
Start thinking how you want to set your sail. It's not what happens to us that matters so much. It's much more what we do with what happens.
My main concern is you don't seem to have someone locally you can talk to. It's great that you came here. We can help some. It will help as your life unfolds to have at least one friend to talk to. At least try to be open to meeting someone new. Who knows, it might even be another person your age going through something similar. Something tough. Something they need to talk to some one else about.
If a person comes into your life, and they need to talk, here's the most important thing you can do to help them... Listen to what they have to say. Hopefully, they will listen to what you have to say.
I hope you continue to post here.

Where's the Beautiful Escape?
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   Posted 10/2/2006 8:45 PM (GMT -6)   
thanks i appreciate u writing to my post!

Nicky (coquitlam55)
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   Posted 10/2/2006 11:00 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi Jackie,
I went through my parents divorce and I can relate how difficult it is. As Ed said, it's your parents divorcing, not you. I have learned (finally) that it wasn't my fault and I wasn't responsible for anything that went wrong.
I have also learned to listen when others notice that I might need to be on anti-depressants. My husband first recommended them when I went from being my happy go luck self to a sad withdrawn self.
Do you have a counsellor at school? Or is there a local teen centre that has counselling? Or do you have a good relationship with your family doctor, can you ask him / her to refer you to a counsellor? Or even if your dad doesn't understand, can he help you find someone to talk to? A lot of employers have access to counselling services. I have found counselling very helpful.
Feeling helpless and sad is a big sign that you're depressed and need to get some help. Keep telling people until someone understands and will talk to you or will help you. You're far to young to feel numb, you have so much of your life ahead of you. You've made the first step by reaching out here.
I cannot always control what goes on outside. But I can always control what goes on inside. 
                 --Wayne Dyer

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Date Joined Jul 2006
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   Posted 10/4/2006 3:02 PM (GMT -6)   
I am so, so sorry. Achually theres a good book called Overcoming Depression My mums friend said it helped her a lot, its by Paul Gilbert check it out at its helping me aswell.
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