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   Posted 10/4/2006 6:44 AM (GMT -6)   
I am reading a book called The Ghost in the House: Motherhood, Raising Children, and Struggling with Depression by Tracy Thompson.  Wondering if anybody else has read it and what they think?  I think it's amazing.  It hits the nail right on the head.  I would like to buy a copy of it for everybody in my family for Christmas, maybe then I'd be better understood!  Just wondering if others have read it and what they think....  And I recommend it highly to anyone who is looking for information on Post Partem Depression and dealing with depression while trying to parent. 
I think where I'm finding it most helpful is with regards to my son.  And the generational, hereditary aspect of depression.  I am now planning on looking into getting him a psychiatrist more urgently, especially since the services are now covered and provided by my husband's new employment.  For example, my son just asked if he could take Monopoly to school, or a puzzle and I have to say no.  I don't want to loose the pieces.  But he flies off the handle, slams his fists into walls.  Until reading the book I never equated his angry outbursts with depression.  I had never even realized that my angry outburts when he was younger, were also a part of the depression.  Anyways, if anyone has on any thoughts on depression and children, as well as passing it on through the generations, I could use some insight.  My son has been through too much because of my depression and I'm pretty sure he's suffering to some extent and he's using the behaviours he learned from me when he was a very young child.  I'm no longer so volatile or violent due to the fact I'm taking 225mg of EffexorXR but I'm still struggling with depression big time (see my last thread for more details on me) but it's partially because of him that I hide so much of how I'm feeling now and fail to deal with it because it gives him a more secure place to deal with his.  But unfortunately by not dealing with mine, I'm also not teaching him any coping lessons of any use.....  It's a vicious cycle.....  Any insight is appreciated.
 It would be easier to tell people I have cancer than it is to tell them I am severely depressed.....

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   Posted 10/5/2006 5:55 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi, I havent heard of the book your reading but do know that depression and other disorders of this type most certianly are hereditary.  I dont recall how old you said your son is in your other post but, some of what is going on with him could be learned behavior from him seeing you when you were most depressed and not on medication.  Children are very perceptive....
My mother has depression and has had it for years mostly managed through medication.  My little brother (4 years younger) and I also have depression.  However, my brother was a very rageful child growing up and often was in trouble at school and difficult for my mom to handle.  It wasnt until his early 20's that he was diagnosed with a personality disorder and ADD which explained alot of his behaviors.  He still refuses any kind of medication or treatment and has many anger outbursts but he is able to function as everyone else in the community as far as working full time and managing a family of 5 kids.  I often wonder how they will grow up to be whole individuals being exposed to that.
Since you said you had the insurance to cover thearpy for him I would certianly put it to good use.  You may also want to look into a child psychiatrist who can work with him also in addition to counseling.  The more your informed the better and I am sure that they can give you much better insight into how to deal with his outbursts and hopefully how to heal it.

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   Posted 10/6/2006 12:56 PM (GMT -6)   
OMG Slowly it is like you just described my experience with my son! He is an adult now but we have really been through it together. I will definately get that book.

On a hopeful note, when my son was young and we had so much trouble I always let him know that no matter what I would love him and never ever give up on him. In some way that made it so he couldn't give up on himself. I won't go into the details but I want to report today that he is wonderful, well adjusted focused and determined adult. He is in the college of his choice pursuing his choosen career with a singlemindedness that I have rarely seen in anyone. He has dated a wonderful woman for 4 years and they have begun their lives together. He is smart, articulate, caring and just about the best man I have ever met! I am so proud of him for not giving up on himself when I know he wanted to so many times. Keep the faith and thanks for the recommendation.
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   Posted 10/6/2006 1:42 PM (GMT -6)   
That does give me hope, thank you. And it's so hard to have hope some days so it's nice. Thank you.
 It would be easier to tell people I have cancer than it is to tell them I am severely depressed.....

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