My husband suffers from manic depression and anxiety. We've been through a lot in the last year with our house being almost destroyed and illness in the family. I've worked hard w/my husband to help him see that there are always better days, sometimes you just have to make life simple. With him, if he tries to read too much into someones action or everyday life seems to be getting too much, he becomes really depressed. I have to constantly remind him to close his eyes, don't think ... just listen to some soft music (or whatever he enjoys). If there is no music available, he closes his eyes and listens to nature. The sound of birds or the soft rustle of leaves at this time of year. It doesn't take away the problem, just gives us a much needed break. Sometimes he says this doesn't work, so I've had him read a book or take a walk. He says that as long as his mind is being occupied (such as reading), things become better. We have 2 small dogs and they seem to help him a lot (unconditional love). Do you have a pet? Even a fish such as a beta might help. Fish seem to be very calming. My husband has learned to love the library. Maybe because it's always quiet, not much hustle and bustle, and a place to really relax. Have you tried this? Your friend may not be pulling away from you ... just doesn't know how to help. Keep trying to find the right counselor as they can be a real blessing. Remember, if today is bad it is OK as there is always another day and the problems of yesterday doesn't seem to matter ... keep it simple.
I'm not a counselor ... just someone that knows what you're going through.