Hi Sunshine, it is odd that you would post this as I have been dealing with this same thing myself. I have never had much luck with counselors/thearpists. I do understand the process of counseling as I am getting my masters in psychology and have worked in the psychiatric field for many years. However, when it comes to myself I am at a total loss. Last year I started seeing a new psychiatrist who set me up with a counselor. I have childhood sexual abuse issues that I have a hard time resolving. I felt that counseling was helping for a while but after my last visit this past week I left there with very conflicting feelings. I sit here thinking that I havent really resolved much in counseling, and my counselor said that he felt I was was good enough now that I didnt need to come back for anymore sessions. So, I wonder does he not want to hear it anymore? Or have I covered up my problems in counseling during session so he isnt aware of how I feel and deal with everyday?
Regardless, I think counseling is still a good tool to use if you work it right. I dont know what my problem is and perhaps I need a differant thearpist. But "thearpy resistance" I think would come from inside yourself in your mind. It would be that your not ready to deal with whatever issues you have in your life causing problems. I know this is my problem and has been for many years. It isnt up to your thearpist to do the work...yes, they need to be perceptive to you and your feelings and issues, form a treatment plan for you and give suggestions, but basically most of the work is up to us. That is the hardest of it all.