treatment at work

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   Posted 11/3/2006 12:57 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi everyone,
I haven't posted for a long, long time.  I've been in treatment for depression for about 2 years and I felt like I had made some good progress.  Then something happened at work and to make a long story short my friend, who is also my boss, put all the blame on me to make herself look good.  Now, aside from the backstabbing which makes me quite sad I feel like I'm being treated like a leper.  There are whispered comments, closed door discussions, aside comments like "what was that psychological term?", and absoutely no conversation from my boss, not even a hello or goodbye.  I've asked my boyfriend to make sure I haven't turned invisible!  They've also shifted some of my job duties without telling me or getting my input and I'm very closely supervised now.  I have to agree on a list of priorities at the beginning of the week and they have to be done by the end of the week or I could face disciplinary action.  Also, when I request time off for doctor's appointments they send a copy to the H.R. person.  I'm not sure if they're putting this in my personnel file or not, but if a copy is sent to the H.R. person it seems likely.  Am I being paranoid?  I mean the whispered comments and closed door discussions could have absoutley nothing to do with me.  But I just FEEL like I'm a leper and I'm being ignored and my work marginalized.

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   Posted 11/6/2006 11:25 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi prairierose, I am sorry you havent gotten any replies to your post so far eyes ... I think it is a little difficult to comment on your situation without knowing exactly what the situation was that transpired to begin this all.  I am not asking you to reveil it, just that it is hard to say without knowing your work situation. 
Having said that, I will tell you that I worked in mental health for 11 yrs and was in management position for a great deal of that time.  I dont feel that your being paranoid at all.  It seems that your boss is covering her behind for whatever reason (I dont know?) and you are indeed bearing the brunt of the fallout by being closely supervised, and having all of your actions documented.  Is there anyway you can talk to HR regarding this?  or can you transfer into a differant position out from under your current supervisor?  I will tell you that never should your supervisor discuss you or anything about you to another employee so if you do feel that this is happening you should report it to HR or file a grievance.  I am sorry that your in this position...people shouldnt have to work in these kinds of conditions. 

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   Posted 11/6/2006 2:24 PM (GMT -6)   
I'm so sorry this is happening to you. Something like this happened to me once and no you are not being paranoid. A common tactic is to eagle-eye everything you do and to more or less isolate you. You too must start documenting and talk to HR as Elisha suggested ASAP. I wish you the best. Take care.
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   Posted 11/14/2006 6:15 PM (GMT -6)   
Thank everyone for their responses.  I talked to my supervisor's boss and she suggested that we all meet and she facilitate a discussion.  I think it's total BS but I'm going to go through it and then probably file a grievenance.  That way I can say I did the correct procedures.  My supervisor has scheduled a "counseling session" with me (2nd one).  For what, I have no idea.  I've been meeting my deadlines, been doing everything they say, etc.  But like you said, she's eagle eyeing everything.  It has really impacted me and I'm crying a lot now.  I've scheduled appointments with my psychologist and psychiatrist.  This woman has turned a work situation into a personnal vendetta and she's enjoying her power trip.
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