Welcome to the forum rainey,
I am going to start off with a little background here... I met a guy when I was 16, I came from a horrible home life,and this guy kept making all kinds of future promises. I became pregnant and I received my first punch that knocked me into the wall and flew me back into him while I was 8 months pregnant.
13 years and lots of visits to the ER later,I woke up one morning after being his punching and verbal abuse bag,and decided that I had enough. I made some phone calls,and then made his coffee,and when he sat down to read the paper I informed him that my family was coming over to help me and the kids move out,and that he would never lay on hand on me again. To this day I have no idea where the strength came from. I don't have a clue why it was that day,I think I just broke basically.
Once a man hits a woman,they do not stop as long as they know they can get away with it. Men like that choose a woman because the woman is weaker than the man. You usually do not see a man like that go after another man that is their size.
If your husband is abusing you,he is a very weak man. He does not deserve to have someone stand by his side.
I became very close to being killed during many of the episodes. I had 2 children that I needed to live for.
I know the threats they make:
1.You will never make it without me
2.If I can't have you no one will
3.No man will ever want you
4.You will never see your kids again if you leave me
5.Your family does not want you
You need to ask yourself a couple questions:
1.Am I better off with or without him
2.Are the words that he tells me true?
3.Do I want to be hit anymore
Tell someone what is going on. Lean on your family.
Once someone finds out what you have been going through,they are going to be very angry with themselves for not seeing the signs. You are a woman,and should never EVER be hit by a man. A husband is supposed to protect their wife. They are supposed to cherish them. Love them unconditionally. That is what you signed up for. It is not your fault that the man you said yes too,has become a monster. You did nothing to deserve it. Those are his demons not yours. Do not let him destroy you anymore.
Chronic Depression, Panic Attacks,Anxiety Attacks,Anorexia