Firstly , welcome to Healing Well. You will find there are loads of wonderful people here with lots of great advice.
I think in any relationship you should take time to get to know each other. If you like someone and they like you it won't matter how long it takes to open up infront of them , they will understand , but , if they're only in it for the money they will get tired of waiting , so you will know they were a jerk.
If you are not already doing so please talk to your doc about finding some treatment.
CBT can help change negative thoughts into positive. Here are some links for online CBT
A lot of people here have had great results using these.
Let us know how you get on.
Take care ,
Hi nichtimmer, I wanted to add my welcome to you also. I agree with smiler that relationships take time to get to know each other. I also have this thing about not wanting to waste my time on some "jerk" and often when I meet someone and he says something bad regarding someone else right off that puts me off as it shows a negative side to his character. I too was abused as a child and find it difficult to get close to people and often find mistrust in others. I have been working on this through counseling. Which may not be such a bad idea for you to seek out to help resolve some of your internal issues that you carry regarding your childhood.
I hope you continue to visit Healing Well for support and guidance, this is a wonderful site with many caring people always willing to help. Take care.
ElishaCo~Mod: DepressionModerator: Heart & Cardiovascular Diseasehttp://www.healingwell.com/donate