It all went so wrong (very pointless and childish story)

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   Posted 12/21/2006 4:39 PM (GMT -6)   
i arranged to meet my friend to go to his dads house for a party. we met up in a pub, played some pool and had a good laugh. i then decided to get some food, we went to mcD's. when we got inside i offered to find a table while my friend got the food, he said he'd rather find the table. so i queued for ages (in heels) and got all the food. i carried it upstairs (dropped the napkins on the stairs as the tray was so fulll).
just as i got to the table, i dropped one portion of fries on the floor. my friend immediately said "oh you dropped your fries", so i put everything down and sat down as i had been on my feet for ages. i asked him if he would pop downstairs and get me some fries, he said i could share his, but im a bit weird about things like that and i wanted my own, so i told him he didnt have to pay, but he said he'd go later. but i didnt see why i should wait when all he'd done is sit at the table while i queued for ages alone,
i told a member of staff id dropped the fries (so she would know and no one would fall on them) and she told me if i went downstairs i could get a portion for free, i told my friend and he said i could have his and he would get the other friews later when he wanted them. but hed already eaten some of them and i wanted my own. so i ended up going downstairs and queuing again.
when i got upstairs i noticed a booth was free, and i thought we'd be much better off if we moved, i offered to carry the tray, and it wasnt far. he said we had almost finished eating so there was no point. i pointed out that HE had nearly finished, i hadnt even started. i said that we hardly bhad any space where we were and lots of people were sat very close to us (i have weird anxiety things), but he said there was no point and he didnt want to move.
i just snapped, i was so angry that he was being so selfish, and in his shoes i wouldnt have hesitated about replacing his fries or moving if it made him more comfortable.
i know it seems so petty and childish. but i sunk down into a really low mood. i couldnt imagine being happy and chatty at the party. i just wanted to go home and watch CSI on my own! my friend stormed off saying i was "mental" for blowing it out of proportion, and left me to get a taxi home alone.
so here i am, watching CSI with my two puppies, and im much calmer and more content than being at a party!
now i look back, maybe i did over react, maybe i should have just got on with it and taken deep breaths and not expected him to do things for me. maybe it was me who was being selfish,.

Post Edited (Lilly113) : 12/21/2006 2:44:07 PM (GMT-7)

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   Posted 12/21/2006 6:00 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi Lilly,

I am sorry your had such a ucky night. I would have gotten upset as well. In fact, I am find myself letting the actions/reactions of other determine my happiness. I am trying to overcome this.

Does this make sense? Hope you had a better day today!

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   Posted 12/22/2006 7:44 AM (GMT -6)   
sounds like he was being very lazy
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   Posted 12/22/2006 8:56 AM (GMT -6)   
Hey Lilly, I'm sorry that your night ended up screwed up sadI too am weird about sharing food with others.  I am wondering if your friend is aware of your anxiety issues?  Of is he just insensitive like that?  Some guys are...  Anyway, I dont think that you over reacted nor do I see what the big deal would of been about moving to a booth where you would of had more room and space.  Perhaps if he had been the one to stand in a big long line then to drop the napkins and then his fries he wouldnt be in such a forgiving mood either I imagine.  I would most certainly speak to him about how he hurt your feelings about saying your "mental"....that is just wrong for any friend to say.

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   Posted 12/22/2006 9:45 AM (GMT -6)   
Hello Lilly
Honey I'm sorry to say but you endured a whole lot more then I ever would have. This so called friend doesn't sound like much of a friend to me. He really sounds like he's a real jerk and you don't need his friendship or what ever you want to call it. Don't put yourself thru this hun you deserve to have good times when your out. Find you a gentelman to go hang out with someone that will treat you like a lady instead of a doormat.
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