is this the way you want to life the rest of your life? i hope not. three things and three things only are the hard rock upon which to build a lasting relationship: HONESTY, HONESTY, and HONESTY!
if your significant other is emotionally unavailable to you before you get married, what miracle do you ex[pect to all of a sudden make him/her emotionally available once some words are said and rings exchanged? get real!!!!!!
if your other believes that you can just "snap out of it" they are sicker than you. i don't need that kind of illness in my life. why do you?
a fake smile? a fake orgasm? a fake marriage? fake children? a real divorce?
sorry to be so frank. i'm trying to give you an alternative way of looking at your circumstances. this doesn't mean that what i have written is gospel. it's not. it's just another take on youor reality.
i wish you the best.
That light at the end of he tunnel? It's an on-coming train.
Some day you'll learn that a good bm is better than sex.