Posted 1/16/2007 1:27 AM (GMT -6)
My story starts here, I have been married to a man for over 2 years, the 1st year we were together I left him after 3 months because I was afraid of the commitment, during that time he was sad, but soon forgot me because his love for his childhood neighbor had come back. I realized I wanted him back without knowing he had a thing for this girl. Everything was going great till one day I found out he was still talking to her, and to top it off she had gotten married. Well he stopped talking to her, but the damage was done, I had lost all trust for him. Over the next year and a half we had ups and downs, and when I'm saying up and down I mean heaven and hell type of thing. In my heart I truly love this guy. I feel that we are 1, but we always argue. I am willing to change not trusting him, I also have a problem I speak without thinking, but he also makes me feel angry that he doesn’t appreciate me. That is why I give him hell. So when it comes time to breakup I always find myself saying no I don’t want to. He always decides that it is best that we don’t breakup. This time our fight blew up like crazy. He had wanted to go out to a club and dance with a bunch of girls while I sat at home being a "good" girl. I listen and I work with him and try to make sure he is happy, is there anything wrong with me being upset that he wants to do these things? He used to tell me before that he was doing it and now he doesn’t say a word, he tells me he is going to play pool which is hard for me to believe because he doesn’t answer his phone. Should I ignore the fact that he is disrespecting my wishes and let him go and maybe he will get over going out to these clubs and realize he is doing something wrong, and maybe he will stop, or should I continue on being stubborn and telling him No not to go? Because we really broke up this time, and that is our only problem, I don’t want him doing these things, what must I do to make things better? I am terribly depressed mentally for what all happened. Please help.