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   Posted 1/21/2007 7:17 PM (GMT -6)   

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   Posted 1/21/2007 9:14 PM (GMT -6)   
 I may not can give very good advice so far as if this is depression or not.I hope the moderators can help with that.But I got to tell you,even tho I spend alot of time here lately for my depression.I have spent lots of time on bipolar looking for advice,because my husband is having the same feelings you are but does not realize anything is wrong.I think he is bipolar.I really hope you can get help for this...especially with someone who cares...I love my husband very much but he is pushing me away...He is pretending at times also.I am very tuned into him and I can feel what hes feeling,and that tears me up.I hope you go get help.But please try not to just go away.One day when I just could'nt handle it anymore I with to the doc,and now I'm getting the help I need,with my depression...Please take care...let us hear... :-) And I say write all you want...It helps!!!
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   Posted 1/22/2007 9:39 AM (GMT -6)   

Welcome to healing well charmless, we are happy to have you join us here.  I have had depression, anxiety & panic disorder since my early teens so I can relate to a lot of what you have written here. 

You have just graduated high school and are now facing college and your friends are going away to school...that is a major life change and can most certainly affect your mood, feelings and perhaps bring on depression.  Wither or not you have depression I don’t know and can’t diagnose that as I am not a doctor but it does sound as if your experiencing depressive symptoms.

Depression does change the way a person thinks and feels.  Often times the person who has depression will isolate themselves from loved ones, sabotage relationships/friendships and can often times lead to self destructive behaviors.  This is a very serious illness and if you honestly feel that you are experiencing this as I believe that you do from your post then you need to seek help from your physician ASAP.  It can not be left untreated as to do so will only result in disaster.  If this is the first time you have ever experienced this then it could just be a situational depression in which case is usually temporary and with medication and some therapy for a short period of time the person is able to over come this hurdle and resume normal life.

I can tell from your post that you love your BF very much...perhaps you can talk to him about your feelings and try to get him to understand what your going through and have him be a good support system for you while your going through this.  Maybe also your family will be receptive to helping and understanding.  No matter what you do please do seek help from a doctor or even some therapy to help you through this transition in life.

We are always here so please do feel free to post anytime...Take care

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Date Joined Feb 2007
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   Posted 2/16/2007 9:15 AM (GMT -6)   
Hiya, I am also 18 and after long searching I came across this website. I would love to get in contact with you charmless as at the moment I am going through the exact same! Down to a tee. I m with my first bf and left school last may. It is awful isn't it I feel like walking off the face of the earth sometimes, i hate myself for not being able to love my bf and like you the switch happened in a day. I have been to the docs and a councillor and have some info?! f you would like to have a chat i'd love to hear from you, perhaps we could help each other. My story is far far longer than this but I could simply go on for ever! I have and am experiencing EVERYTHING you have written in your post, and not meaning this in a bad way, am glad ive found this because i felt crazy like no-one understood what i meant! If you have msn or an emil address, and you would ever like someone to talk to that understands what your going through, please please just leave a post here and I'll get back t you. I feel I'd greatly benefit speaking to you. Thank you nd good luck chick! Best wishes katie x x

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Date Joined Feb 2007
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   Posted 2/16/2007 12:31 PM (GMT -6)   

Hi, charmless--

I can really relate to what you describe. I feel like I've lost my short-term memory over the past four to six weeks as my anxiety and depression seemed to get worse. One of my triggers, I think, was that I was just promoted. And, as a response, my mind shut off!! Positive life events can be just as stressful and catalytic as negative ones. It seems to be about the intensity, or at least that's how I see it.

Losing my memory and common sense makes me feel like I'm deteroriating, or like my whole life before was a lie....I feel so stooopid! All I want to do are repetitive tasks, if I want to do anything at all.

I also have a hard time feeling emotion right now. I think I'm simply exhausted and too scared. My therapist said that I should take time to relax and rest, even if it means curling up in a blanket. And I just started medications this week.

It sounds like you've had some great accomplishments and that you're going through a lot of change. I second everyone else's advice to talk to a dr. about what's been going on in your life. It's really painful to be isolated. You don't deserve that. Nobody does.

And congratulations on your graduation!


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   Posted 2/17/2007 2:10 PM (GMT -6)   
Bless your heart Charm! {{{{{{hugs}}}}}} You don't have to feel this bad! At least you are trying to do something about the destructive changes in your life - you posted here for help. Now it's time to see a doctor. I so wish I had said something about my depression to my parents when I was your age, it would have saved a whole lot of pain and heartache for me and everyone who knew me. Also, back in the Dark Ages when I was 18, drugs for depression didn't exist. When I finally saw a doc and got on an SSRI drug, my whole life turned around. I had been depressed my entire life and really thought that was they way Everyone felt, and that it was normal. Well, it's not, and you don't have to suffer.

By the way, you are a very good writer and communicator - based on your post anyway. Would it be easier for you to tell your parents about how you're feeling through a letter, or maybe even showing them this post? You need some help right now from a doctor, and support from your family and boyfriend. They can't effectively support you emotionally without knowing the facts.
Living in the Republic of Texas minus a gallbladder, appendix, uterus, and 18" of colon; but living with my wonderful husband, 2 dogs, 1 cockatiel, and 2 gold fish. 

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