Hello, thanks for replying, i'm ok on the whole, just on a bit of a downer at the mo.
I am not sure if I caught how old your son is?
My little man is seven, he's developmentally around a four year old, which at times is nice because he cuddles into me like my baby, he's still my little baby, no matter how old he gets. Othertimes it can be a problem because he can have four year old tantrums in a seven year olds body which can be hard to deal with. Also sometimes he wants to join in with the older kids, and generally i try to accomodate him, and they are usually good with him, but sometimes it's not possible and that frustrates him. I have to go everywhere with him when he's not at school or in our home (which is Ewan proofed!), because he has no awareness of danger and would happily run off down the middle of the main road if left to his own devices. That can be frustrating for him because what seven year old wants their mum tagging along everywhere with him, and when he gets frustrated if i don't let him do something, i feel really bad and down about it for following him around. Like the other day when the older kids were going down the slide on a skateboard and bouncing off at the bottom, my son wanted to have a go, but he wouldn't have understood he'd have to hold onto tightly to the skateboard, and he'd have fallen off a very high slide. He got so upset with me and i felt like the worst mother ever for not including him with them. I try my best to make sure he gets included with their games, and has a 'normal' life as possible, but sometimes it isn't possible
HELLO!! WHO ARE YOU AND WHAT HAVE YOU DONE WITH MY KID!! )lol.
lol!!!! Yes i feel like that when his teacher tells me all these wonderful things he's doing at school, like feeding himself! Lazy monkey always wants me to do it for him!!!! Bless him!
A single mom in itself is something that not alot of people can do. And then to have a child that has problems,and you are doing it by yourself?
I was a single mother for the first four 1/2 years of his life. Thankfully i met a really lovely guy who i've been with for two 1/2 years now. Him and my son really get along, and Ewan calls him daddy now, which is lovely. He stays with us for a few weeks while he's working down this way, and then he goes back up to do his course for a few weeks, he's re-training to be a plumber. We're both studying. He's really understanding about my depression which is nice. He's such a breath of fresh air compared to the abusive relationship i was in with my son's biological father. He doesn't know where we're living because he used to be physically abusive as well as mentally abusive. He's an alcoholic. I've moved four times to get a peaceful life for me and my son. All i ever wanted when we moved away was for my son to have the best father possible, my father when i was growing up was very cold, detached, and regimental. I still love him even though i'll never be able to get close to him, i accept now thats just the way he is. I'm just so glad my son will have the chance to grow up with a loving cuddly father who wants to take an interest in him. That makes me more happy than anything.
I think you need to change your nick to "Warrior"...that seems to fit better
I still find it really hard to take compliments even now! It's so much easier to take critisism isn't it lol?! Thank you, even though you made me blush!!!!
Now...maybe it is time to find a sitter when you friend gets back,and just have a night all to yourself? I am thinking a nice dinner,a glass of wine..and a back rub? ;)
Hope you're going to spoil yourself too soon, it's good to do something nice just for ourselves once in a while. Besides you need to take care of yourself so you can take care of the family. Maybe treating yourself to a nice box of chocolates and a video, or a trip to the hairdresser, anything to feel good once in a while. I'm lucky that my mum has Ewan one night a week so i can get some sleep, because little man tends to wake up a lot most nights, so that one night is very precious! Speaking of which i just realised how late it is, lost track of time then! Time for bed i think, up early again....
Sorry i don't half waffle on sometimes!!!! Must get out more!!!! I like chatting on here though, you're all so nice....
'Serenity is not freedom from the storm, but peace within the storm....'
Post Edited (saeharr) : 1/26/2007 7:02:01 AM (GMT-7)