ShynSassy, I am sorry that you have had some difficult experiences with men understanding but I respectfully disagree with the broad sweeping generalization that men aren't good at emotions. We all learn and/or have to overcome what we are raised with. My husband grew up in the worst of emtotional circumstances. He is for me a rock of support.
Let's face it, depression does affect relationships. It is difficult to understand if you have not exprienced it. It is okay for our spouses not to understand and be confused and wish it was different. It is also okay for us to feel frustrated when they don't get it. Sometimes we don't get it, why should we expect them to get it all the time? As long as you are both willing to work toward understanding together, don't give up. I think the suggestion of having your husband go to the doctor with you is a good one. There is also a book by Tracy Thompson which is about
being in a family with depression. It helped me to be able to talk to my family and husband about
depression, reading it helped them understand and helped all of us feel less like blaming each other.
GettingBetter - I have to say that I love how positive and forward looking your ID is. The first years of marriage are difficult adjustments for anyone without added stressors. Try to give yourself and your husband a break and take things one step at a time.
Walk in harmony