I am so sorry that he is unable to understand what it is like for you. My husband and I have been together for 7 years and have one daughter. When he tries to say that it is affecting the relationship and why do I act like this I usally end up telling him to go fly a kite(not near as nicely)and I have even resorted to taking him to a psyicitrist appt where all he had to do was listen and if he wanted to talk he could. This was amazing he was able to talk and communicat with out us screaming and me ending up in tears. My husband by far is not a very understanding person and is the kind of person to always feel he is right and is never able to see the other side, so when he was able to do this it was amazing, and it really helped both of us. Good luck to you and yours and it will work.
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