Hi slowly, welcome back you have been missed my dear. Maree has a wonderful idea about the parenting group perhaps you can see if there is one in your area? I cant really give you any advice regarding children as I dont have any, I wasnt able to have any. But I can imagine how stressful it is for you...my little brother who is turing 30 this yr has 5 kids, 3 that live with him and his girlfriend and she has one of her own. Two of the kids are newborn twins 3 months old girls, a 2 yr old boy who is very intergetic and her oldest daughter who just turned 10. It is quite a house full and my brother rarely helps out with the babies...maybe it is a man thing I dont know. His girlfriend dosent get much support from her family other than money wise so, my mom takes a day a week and baby sits for them so she can have a break.
I really think that there should be more options/support for parents who are struggling. Not only emotionally but money wise as well. For so many years women have been expected to raise the children, take care of the house and keep a sunny smile on their face. That is not withstanding any kind of physicial illnesses, depressions, or other mental disorders, or even having to keep a seperate job. I really dont see how they have done do it...or the ones who make it look so easy. I know I couldnt be a parent, it is the hardest job in the world.