why do we do these things to ourselves? i'm not a psychologist, psychiatrist, or any kind of therapist. but i'm 61 yrs old and have learned a lot during this incarnation.
we all have a "comfort zone" which is that set of circumstances and feelings in which we are most "at home." this comfort zone has a range, but not a very large one.
let me give you an example. there is a guy who grew up in subsidized housing and his family never had enough money. but this guy could play footbqll better than anybody in hi state. he winsa football scholarship to a grear university and is a number one draft pick for the pros. he plays one season for a championship football team but is forced to retire because of a torn ligalemt that therapy and surgery were unable to heal. he goes back to his home town with the money he made as a pro football player. within a year he is broke because of bad investments and poor money management. HE IS BACK IN HIS COMFORT ZONE.
we all can fall prey to our comfort zones. the trick is to expand our comfort zones such they they include healthful things and healing things and spiritual things.
hope my observation on life has been helpful.