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Date Joined Feb 2007
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   Posted 2/15/2007 11:45 PM (GMT -6)   
Well, where do I start? I guess I have been on depression for little over 3 years now. But, I wasn't aware of it until I started getting anxious feeling occasionally 2 years ago until now. Now that I am fully aware that I am on depression, I intend to seek help - cuz, it is getting worse and worse everyday.
I am 22 years old/male. I come from a great family, and my life is going completely well. But, I just don't understand why I am so depressed. There is no reason whatsoever to be so anxious and depressed about everything, but I just can't help it, and I am sick of it. I don't know exactly at what point and why the depression clouded my life, but one thing I am sure is that before all this, I was completely fine.
I will not bore you with details of how much negative impact it is having on my everyday life. In brief, I always have hard time getting up in the morning; I feel so depressed that I just don't want to be at school or work or whatever. I am always avoiding to deal with everyday problems. It also has disastrous effect on my social life. I can't make a decent conversation with poeple anymore. In social situations, I get very nervous. Hell, I just can't explain why. And also, you can say that now I am officially the most sensitive and self-conscious person in the entire universe. Drinking beer on every weekend is the only pleasure I get from this miserable existience. And worse, when I get drunk, I become so suicidal that now my friends avoid drinking with me. I became so unlucky and unfortunate. I don't even wanna mention what has become of my love life. I always seem to miss the boat when it comes to love. I became so unfortunate with woman that sometimes I think that I might be gay.
Honestly, I am so sick of all this. I just wanna get back to the normal state of mind. I am sick of getting anxiety attacks now and then. I wanna be the guy I used to be. It seems that talking about it or seeing counsel isn't the solution to this problem.
What can I really do? What really helps? Do those medicines really work?
Please, help me with your advice!    
Thank you!    

Post Edited (rony) : 2/15/2007 11:40:37 PM (GMT-7)

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   Posted 2/16/2007 12:29 AM (GMT -6)   
Hey Rony,
First thing I would do would be to call up your doctor and get on some anti-depression meds to even out the rough spots.  Depression is a physical disease, caused by a chemical imbalance in the brain.  For some reason, your brain chemistry is not working correctly and you need medication(s) to correct the imbalance.  It affects your emotions and behavior, but is not caused by it.  Your relationship problems with ex-girlfriends are no more at fault for your imbalance than I am.  The condition will not just go away, but can be controlled with the proper medication.  Make it clear to your friends that no one, especially you is at fault, no more so than someone who gets cancer.  It happens.  When it does happen, it affects your moods, which nobody else has any control over.  You just have to keep reminding yourself that you are NOT responsible for your moods, good or bad.  Just make sure you are extremely careful about taking your medication(s) exactly as prescribed and things should get better.
The other thing is that the alcohol has got to go.  Alcohol is a depressant, so if your brain chemistry is already causing you depressive symptoms, alcohol is just going to make the chemical imbalance worse.  That's why the suicidal thoughts come in, and the fact that your recent girlfriend relationships have not worked out, is exacerbated by the alcohol consumed when your brain is already in a depressive state.  This has nothing to do with you possibly being gay.  Even if you were gay, you would have the same relationship problems, just with guys, because the chemical imbalance is still in place.  Plus, if you leave the alcohol alone, the depression will get better, and the suicidal thoughts will go away.
Also, it is pretty common for Panic and Anxiety Disorder to accompany a depressive imbalance.  You will probably just need some additional medication.
Hope you find a good doctor, and let us know how you are doing, or if we can answer anymore questions for you.
Leigh Ann cool   
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   Posted 2/16/2007 3:57 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi rony
Welcome to HW :)
Leigh Ann has given you great advice..hope you stay clear of the alcohol and seek medical advice soon. Keep us posted with your progress. :-) Is there something in your life that you really wanna do? You are young enough to make your life dreams come about busying yourself with plans for travel, or pursuing a new interest perhaps..distraction is often the key to feeling better - it stops all those 'ick' feelings and bad thought processes that we all have at times eyes
You will find there are some great people here at HW.. I look forward to reading your next post.
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   Posted 2/16/2007 5:06 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi Rony,
Welcome to Healing Well.
Depression is a tough illness, i know.  I have had a hard time myself.  What you have to remember is  ~ you dont always need a reason to be depressed.  It is an illness and you havent asked for it and you can't help how you feel.
I would really advise that you seek medical advice.  Antidepressants do work well, as does therapy.  There is help out there, so please accept it.
I know you say that alcohol is your only pleasure but alcohol in itself is a natural depressant so isn't doing you any good at the moment as it is just making you feel worse.
Try to be open with the people around you about how you are feeling and accept the help that you need at the moment.  If you start anti depressant meds, please avoid alcohol as it will only make the problem worse.
I'm glad you found this site, we are always here to listen and offer advise where we can.  We are not medical professionals but all off us here have some experience of what you are going through.
Take care and please post again

Victoria x

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   Posted 2/17/2007 10:56 PM (GMT -6)   
Thanks a lot guys!

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   Posted 2/18/2007 12:51 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi rony i`m new here only made my first post today also .I have been suffering from severe depression for over fifteen years and seeking help is your first big step to recovery and wether it be with the help of medication and councilling you are on the rite track.But be careful as alcohol isn`t the answer believe me i have tried it and it doesn`t really help in the long run just a very tempory bandaid .Where you come from has nothing to do with why you are suffering depression .I think a lot of demands made on us by society has a great deal to play with it and the imbalance our body have of coping with it .Therefore with the help of medication you will soon be on your road to recovery
Take care
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