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   Posted 2/16/2007 5:06 PM (GMT -6)   
skull  am feeling really gross...but i have a question. am i stupid for still after (what has it been now) like two weeks wanting my mom? i watch oprah and she has all these shows that are supposed to be inspirational - make your life what you want it to be, get what you want/deserve out of life, etc. and people write in all the time saying things like "today was the day i set aside to kill myself and then i watched you and my life turned around" blah blah. oprah makes me feel worse - because i feel like its just one more way everyone else is getting it together and here i am not being able to grow the hell up ! what is wrong with me?! i can't focus, i don't know what i want out of life, and most of all i miss my family. i'm supposed to be an adult. there are people my age in iraq. everyone else can hack it, why can't i?!

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   Posted 2/16/2007 5:35 PM (GMT -6)   
Don't compare yourself to other people. That is your first mistake. You life is alot different,and your emotions are alot different than anyone else's.
Just because you miss your family does not mean you need to grow up. I am 37 and still have tearful moments because I miss members of my family.
Is it time for you to go home to visit? Or see if your mom can come visit you even if it is just for a day.
Have you met any new friends? Is there any type of activities that you are interested in that might help you take your mind off of things?
Please don't be so harsh on yourself,you have entered a new and scary phase of your life right now. Alot of things are different,and being away from your family is the main hardship.
You also need to remember how proud your family is of you because you are going to college.
Call your mom every day if you need to. Even if it is just to hear her voice.
Does she have a computer so you can email back and forth? Maybe it will be easier for you to get your feelings out that way.
Please keep your spirits up,and know that you are going to be fine. Your whole future is ahead of you.
Let us know how you are doing!!!!

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   Posted 2/17/2007 2:38 AM (GMT -6)   

Hi BlueMoon

At 18 you are at a very vulnerable are a young adult with the whole world at your I would love to be that age again - knowing what I do now that is lol. Ok, first thing to do - stop doing the 'self pity' thing and start living! Sure you miss your mum that's understandable..but hey, she wouldn't want to think of you moping around being sad..she would like to think you were busy studying, meeting new friends and having fun! Don't hide yourself away - others are missing out on meeting a cool person ~ You tongue !

Push yourself out there and join in some activities.. you will be amazed how good it feels being with like minded people..and will soon forget about all the negative stuff you are carrying around with you. Keep in close touch with your won't be long and you will be able to tell her about your new friends and all the activities you have been doing..she will be delighted to hear you are happy I am sure...because as parents all we want for our children is for them to be happy..

Take good care.


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