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   Posted 2/26/2007 10:13 PM (GMT -6)   
I usually post on the A/P forum, but seem to be more depressed than anxious lately... I started a new job last Monday- and in my mind, I keep comparing it to my old job where I had been for 18 years.  I loved that job and am having a really hard time letting go of it, especially because I liked it so much more than this new one (although I know that I really shouldn't be basing my opinion of this new job on just 6 days of it).  What's really strange about this new job is that people don't seem to talk to each other, unless they have a question about what they are working on. People come in in the morning and don't even say good morning; they leave at night without saying goodnight.  They go out to get a sandwich at lunch time and don't even ask if anyone wants them to bring back anything.  I am so not used to this way of working!! I feel like they have been working hard to train me, and so I feel like I really have to give it a chance. Actually, the work itself isn't bad- it's just the atmosphere that I'm having trouble with.  At my old job, we had alot of camaraderie, and there was always someone that made the job fun by being funny, etc. I have gone from working p/t to working f/t, which is also a big adjustment- and I feel like I spend more time at work than at home, so why shouldn't it be fun!!?? I have told myself that I have to stick this out for awhile, but how long do I give it?? Or do I just accept that that's the way the people are there, and learn to live with it? (I'm afraid that if I started looking for another job, the next one I take could actually be worse than this one.)

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   Posted 2/27/2007 3:03 AM (GMT -6)   
Relax a.l., as you said it's only been 6 days on the job..your new workmates are probably a little shy around you and may take time to warm up...lead by example if you want something to change..if you go out for lunch - ask around and see if anyone wants anything..make it your policy to always say good morning and always say their name hehe...that way there's no escape for them :-)
Keep smiling..sooner or later they are gonna wonder what you got to be sooo happy about..keep em guessing lol.
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   Posted 2/27/2007 8:05 AM (GMT -6)   
Thanks, Maree, for the encouragement!! I have been making a point of saying good morning, good night, how was your weekend?, etc. But it is very strange- they are all the way they are amongst themselves too- not just with me.  I have never seen such an unfriendly bunch!! (Though I know I would probably feel worse if they were friendly with each other and I felt left out!!) It just seems to make the workplace tense, without any break. I guess I have to hang in there for now, but it's making me very sad...

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Date Joined Jul 2006
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   Posted 2/27/2007 6:12 PM (GMT -6)   
Optomism is contagious. Smile at others first, always greet them warmly in the morning and don't wait to be invited to lunch, ask someone to go with you. I bet you will find that you are responsible for a turn around in the atmosphere and that others have been wondering why it isn't different.
Walk in harmony

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