Hi there, I'm a new member of this board and I have to say that it has helped me a lot to read about
what other people are going through. My husband moved from the US to Canada to be with me after we dated long distance for 3 1/2 years. When we were dating long distance, everything was fine, he was motivated, energetic, and most of all, interested in me. He's been here for a year and a half, and I believe moving up here has caused him to become depressed - he left behind his friends and his job and hasn't found that things are the same here.
It has taken him the full year and a half to finally see how his depression is destroying our marriage, and to finally take steps to get help. My question is this - how do I deal with the anger over it taking so long for him to get help? (did that make sense?) I want to be supportive, I read everything about how it's an illness, not something he would choose - but I'm only human. I am hurt and sad that this man I wanted to spend my life with has suddenly changed into someone I barely recognize. And because I've lived with his negative outlook and complete disinterest in me as a woman, I have so much resentment towards him. I know that my anger only makes things worse, but I can't seem to get past it. Does anyone have any advice or have you gone through this and can offer some hope?