Randy, I will admit that it has been a while since I have followed your story. From what you have told us about
your ex she seems to me to be a bully. Bullies really are cowards at heart. They try to make themselves look strong by tearing someone else down. Instead of handling their own anger they take it out on someone else. The thing about
bullies though is that it is all for show. You don't have to give into the way she makes you feel.
I think JordaNZone is right about
"Ex wifey can probably be handled by pretending (for a while) not to react to whatever she says that really gets you down or winds you up whatever the case might be!...Once these sort of people realise that they are not having any effect on you they quickly lose interest and go and pick on someone else..this works trust me, and after the first couple of times you ignore the taunts and button pushing you no longer have to pretend ~ and you find that you really couldn't care less after all lol"
You are strong and smart and caring. That will always serve you better than the effect any cowardly bully can have on you. Stay Strong,
Walk in harmony