There are many spouses on this site and we are glad to have you. I thought it might be a good thing to consolidate the threads so that some very good information could be all in one place.
I have depression and so does my spouse so I know this issue from both sides. I want to say that your spouses' depression is not your responsibility. You are not to blame for whatever actions he/she takes while in a depressed state and you are not responsible for his/her recovery or treatment. Your spouse has to be in control or no change will occur. I know that is a scary statement when it feels like they don't care but it is true. That does not mean that you can't support and assist them in getting care. It does mean at a certain time you have to back off and let them take the lead. Only you will know when it is the right time to do this.
No one can tell you to leave or stay, only you have the right to make that decision. Either choice is valid. You have a right to take care of yourself and a priority to take care of any children that may be involved. Sometimes you have to leave to meet those two responsibilities. It does not mean that you have given up on your spouse. If you can stay that is a wonderful thing but this issue takes a toll on families and you have to do what you have to do.
If you Google ******** it will take you to a wonderful site that will give support and advice to those living with a depressed person. This does not mean that we don't want you here, please feel free to do what you need for support. I personally think it is good for depressed people to hear about the causes it creates in thier loved ones. You never know what might get someone on the road to recovery.
Thanks for being here, let us know how you are doing.
I am sorry stronglady but I have had to edit out part of your post due to forum rule #4. No advertising or links to advertising or "Spam" is permited (including signatures).
Links to helpful web sites (commercial or otherwise) are allowed when they are posted by someone without any "vested interest" AND whose purpose is NOT to solicit, advertise, promote, fundraise, etc. - I do realize that you dont have a vested interest in this web site you left...however, it is linked to another message board which is against healing well's rules. I hope you do understand. Thank you ~ Elisha
Post Edited By Moderator (els) : 3/21/2007 9:19:30 AM (GMT-6)