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   Posted 3/28/2007 3:39 PM (GMT -6)   
Im over weight and extremely depressed by that , I always am made to feel like I have to be thin to fit in ,I face fejection everyday,

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   Posted 3/28/2007 4:39 PM (GMT -6)   

Hi Queenlove33, welcome to healing well forum we are most happy to have you join us here.  I am so sorry that you are made to feel this way.  I think that for females weight is a huge issue, I know it is for me and something that I struggle with everyday.  Who is it that makes you feel that you need to be "thin" to fit in? 

I had an eating disorder when I was a teenager in high school of course looking back now I can see that I wasnt over weight then.  I took many years to over come that.  When I was 28 I was diagnosed with Multiple Sclerosis and put on several differant medications for that.  Well, the medications and I guess just being sick in general made me gain weight...about 50 pounds or so.  My husband didnt like the weight gain at all and begain to call me names like "porkchop" and other names he thought was "cutsie"...I did not.  Needless to say, I am divorced now 33 yrs old and have shed most of that weight except for the last 15 pounds or so that just wont come off.  But with the comments that my ex said to me all the time about my weight really tore down my self confidence and self esteem.

My mom who also has severe heart problems and knee problems had to have gastric bypass surgery 4 years ago to lose her weight.  She lost a total of 220 pounds and now she is like a totally differant person then she was before.  She is so active and goes to the gym everyday, drags me with her, and eats right and keeps up with it. 

I guess I am just saying all this to show that I can so relate to weight issues and the psychology/thought processes behind it.  I do hope that you post again and tell us more about what is going on.  Healing Well is a safe place for you to express your feelings and everyone is so very supportive here.  Take care

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   Posted 3/29/2007 5:17 AM (GMT -6)   
Welcome to healing Well. We are pleased that you have found this site and hope that we can help support you in any way we can.
I know that weight can cause problems for people and I am sorry that you are feeling this way. The most important thing is the person on the inside and not how much you weigh.

Have you seen a doctor about your depression and weight worries? If you can treat the depression and your mood lifts then you can start to think about how to tackle the weight. Its not easy and many people are overweight these days. It is nothing to be ashamed of and no one has the right to make you feel the way you are.

Take care and keep in touch with us. Post anytime.

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   Posted 3/29/2007 6:32 AM (GMT -6)   
I can assure you, being thin is not all it's cracked up to be. My doctor's keep begging me too put my weight back on. But I'm not only feeling sick now, I'm actually vomiting. Mines no psycholgical problem, it is a health issue, but all of my old clothes just fall off me now and that is getting me hugely depressed. Even my old belts don't go tight enough, I've had to buy a load of new ones.

There's no shame in being overweight and you don't need to feel out of place. I bet if you start to get the depression side of things under control. Thigns will get better. I know when I'm depressed I start to comfort eat, usually this would make me pile on pounds.

One thing I will suggest is, rather than having a goal weight to celebrate. Celebrate each pound that drops off. Have a reward system, where maybe to celebrate each couple of pounds get something to pamper yourself, like a bath bomb or some new nail polish, perhaps as you loose the weight, spend a pound or a dollar on treats, for each lb you loose. Maybe when you loose 10lbs, treat your self to a new item of clothing.

Rather than concentrating on feeling bad and out of place, concentrate on how loose your clothes are getting, and how much you've acheived. Slap on a bit of makeup and face the world with a smile and your boundto recieve smiles in return, which will boostyour confidence even more.

Hope some of this helps,and doesn't sound patronising or anything. And hope you can turn that frown upside down. Everyone is worth something, no matter how they feel about themselves. They just have to realise that.
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