Hi Sh00p, when I read your posting it was really familiar to me, because my boyfriend said the exact same thing to me about not being strong enough a couple months ago. It seemed like such a cop-out when he said it. I knew he was strong enough, it was just like he didn't even want to try. What a blow on my self esteem.
I don't really know about your particular situation or realtionship, but my mother gave me some advice that worked for me in my realtionship. She told me not to promise I was never going to be unhappy or depressed again, but to do something meaningful for him to let him know that things weren't always going to be like that, and that I understood it was stressful but that he meant so much to me I was trying to get better. I worked really well, and 6 months later my ex boyfriend and I are still together.
You mentioned that you have an appointment to see someone and thats great. The first step is talking the situation over with someone unbiased. I ran over this great website though, it's an international listing of therapists with little profiles so you can check them out before you spend a whole bunch of money on an unproductive session. It's a great place to find someone that will mesch with you. Anyways I just thought I would include it incase you're still looking after your appointment . The web address is http://www.goodtherapy.org
It's hard work, but you can get better. If I can do it anyone can. Seriously.
Post Edited (ggjjkk) : 4/6/2007 8:38:14 PM (GMT-6)