I am new to this site and I hope I will find some people to talk to. I am dating depression, I say this because the man I love is gripped with depression.
At first I thought it was me who was at fault, nothing ever seemed to go right between us, we have good days and we have bad days. As all relationships do...I didn't pay attention. I didn't think that anything was out of the norm, until he
opened up and told me he has nothing to look forward to, he feels no sense of stability, he thinks soon he will die. He has admitted that he wants to die, and that he often has thoughts of killing himself.
I have done a lot of reading on the disease. I don't think he recognises that he is battling depression. Although all of the signs are there. Lost of interest in evertything, no sex drive, feeling like a failure, loss of hope, pushing away the people he loves becasue he feels guilty for "holding" us back from our own lives, feeling like he is a burden.
I don't know how to help him. All of the information I have read says encourage him to get help, but what exactly am I supposed to say to him, to encourage him without worsening his own condition? Just last week we had a huge talk, and he told me his plan to kill himself. This is so frightening. I tried to encourage him to talk to somebody, a third party, a counsellor and he changed the subject.
I am doing my best to be supportive, but the mood swings are sporatic, and often he will act as if life is perfect. Then the down side comes, and he pulls far away.
I have tried to listen, to get him to open up, he won't talk. I am scared to bring up the disscussion that he maybe suffering from a mental health illness/depression.
I have battled my own depression, earlier in my teens and 20's but it was a depression brought on by a tragic event in my life. It never gripped me the way it has gripped him.
He has no self esteem, he has no hope. I don't know what to do. I lost a friend to suicide 3 years ago. It came without any warning. I am scared, can someone please give me some advice on where to go from here.
Is there ANYTHING I can do to help him if he is refusing to seek treatment? Are there things I can do to make this period easier for him? I know he can not just "snap out of it", but is there any hope that he will get better if he doesn't seek medical treatment? All that I have read says that it isn't a "phase", I understand that, but if he refuses to get help, what can I do?