Thank you so much to everybody that replied. I really appreciate it.
I know, only 2 years of marriage and he is not happy already and to tell you the truth I am not happy right now either. This is no the way that I expected my life to be.
He is wanting me to just be happy again and forget about everything he said. I gained about 10 pounds in the last 5 months or so and I am not happy with my body image. I have been trying to go for walks with the kids, but I am having trouble finding time between naps and also me working from home (I am a medical transcriptionist from home - I work when my kids nap). He tells me that he hasn't seen me doing anything about the weight issue and until I do I won't be happy and he won't be happy.
Also, since he has told me that he wanted a divorce and that I wasn't the person that he wanted to spend the rest of his life with, I have had trouble with being intimate with him. He told me that he is not happy with our sex life. Which I do see his point as well, but how am I suppose to just jump into bed with him after everything. I can't and I won't. He says that if I do not change that part he is not going to live that way and he wants a divorce.
Also, when I have something planned and I have asked him if he will stay with the kids for a couple of hours he always ends up getting mad for some reason or another and leaves so that I cannot do what I have planned. I don't know if that is his way of keeping me from doing things or what. I do not get it.
We always have issues every single day and I am getting tired of fighting every single day. I know they are not major issues, but if we can't even sort through those we won't be able to do anything. He tells me a lot that I won't be able to live on my own without him, which is kind of true. That is what makes it hard for me to decide what to do. If I leave I do not know if I will be able to support the kids. The cost of living where I am is ridiculous.
Anytime anything comes up that we have planned together we always fight, always. It is always the simplest things that we find to fight about. Anytime we go out with some of his friends, he always leaves me sitting by myself and does not even acknowledge me at all.
I want someone who loves me for who I am and who constantly reminds me of how much he cares about me and how lucky he is to have me. I want someone who will hold my hand in front of his friends. I want someone who calls me beautiful instead of hot. My husband will have nothing nice to say about me all day and then when he feels like he wants sex, he is the nicest person you will ever find. I hate that. It makes me angry. I really do not feel like kissing the lips that have been talking "crap" all day to me. If that makes sense.
I don't have anymore time right now, but I will keep you posted.
I do not want to just through this marriage away, but it is really toxic right now to me and the kids. Right now at this point in time, I want out and he has told me time and time again that he wants out as well. Where I live it takes months to get a counselor and he refuses to go to one, because he says that he doesn't have the problem, I do.
Anyways, thanks again for all of the posts. I really do appreciate it. I know some of these things that I have wrote above seem so minor that it shouldn't be causes this must stress in our relationship, but it does and I do not know how to fix it.