Yes, it is frustrating. If it were heart disease instead of depression no one would tell me to just get a positive attitude and my heart problems would go away. They'd say, "Oh dear, take care of yourself and take your medications, and if you need help just let me know!"
I understand that people who haven't experienced depression might think it's just a personality problem. But I don't understand why my friend, who knows depression intimately, doesn't see that she keeps repeating the same patterns over and over, and all those "remedies" of changing her life, cleansing diets, thinking positive, or whatever, have never helped her feel better for long. How can she not see that it's just not working, and why would she suggest the same non-solutions to me? It just baffles me.
I'm glad there are forums like this where we can find others who understand. It was a much lonelier world before the internet!