Why do I react like this??

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   Posted 5/22/2007 3:48 AM (GMT -6)   
well last night I was at my boyfriends house, and he fell asleep and I was bored so I went on his pc. I was just looking through things and I came across a conversation that had been between his sister and her bf on instant messenger, I wasn't being nosey but I came across it and felt compeled to read when I noticed my name being mentioned.
It was based around the time of my birthday when we were all meant to be going out.
She basically said to her bf that she wasn't going out with us for my birthday because like he said I would probabley go away and leave her. This boy does not even know me to say this, and I can assure you all if I am out with a group of people I try my best to make everyone welcome, not leave them.
He then replied yes I know and she said, well you know what *** like shes a pain in the @**.
I felt truely hurt, so hurt that I walked staright out of my bf house without saying bye, went home and cried my eyes out.
I truely like this girl and I thought she liked me as she has always acted this way, to my face anyway.
Normally I would have brushed it off, as I know I can be like this when I am in a bad mood but he doesn't even know me and I've never done anything wrong to her. Instead it whizzed around my head all night, and it made me feel sooo down.
Its little things like that, that seem to make my mood drop. I can be fine and something like that happens and a big black cloud emerges over me.
Why do things affect me like this?
Sorry if its silly :(
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   Posted 5/22/2007 6:55 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi Scotsgal
Your self esteem is very very low right now,and of course words that hurt are going to sting.
You need to not put yourself into situations that could turn out bad right now.
I don't mean to walk on egg shells,but just be careful.
Until your meds are at their full effect and you are better with the therapy you have got to be careful.

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Chronic Depression, Panic Attacks,Anxiety Attacks,Anorexia
Meds I have taken throughout the years:Wellbutrin,Tranxene,Paxil,Prozac,Valium,
Currently taking none.


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   Posted 5/23/2007 3:31 AM (GMT -6)   

Hi Scotsgal

Bingo - you are number 3 tonight haha - sorry, but you have written about me, just like 2 other posts I've come across tonight.

Back to serious though, I think that what is happening is that you have trust in this girl and feel that that trust has been betrayed, which is understandable.  Try not to dwell on it, maybe she was having a bad night when she wrote it and didn't really mean it in the way it sounded, perhaps she wrote it thinking about when you were in one of your bad moods - I think it is actually her insecurity showing - why would she care if you weren't hanging with her all the time unless she was feeling a little vulnerable herself?

It's not silly, the littlest things can trigger emotions we don't expect or understand. I hope you are able to let it go and not feel to down.

Best wishes.


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   Posted 5/23/2007 11:33 AM (GMT -6)   
I don't think your reaction is silly. Anyone would be hurt to find someone they thought was a friend would say such a mean thing. It hurts when even strangers say mean things. Of course, we can recover from those more quickly because we don't value a stranger's opinion so much. But we value friends' opinions much more so when you think the person is your friend it's only natural to take it much harder.
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