Wow Cranky, I'm not too sure how I would feel about being forced to go to group thearpy either. I am also not too sure there is much anyone could say to make you feel better about going or having a slight change in prespective regarding it either.
Perhaps, since you dont have self-esteem issues but, do have depression and all these medical issues to deal with...which for alot of people would give them some self-esteem issues (just saying ), you could maybe chime in to the other 3 members with some helpful advice instead of wanting to jump across the room wanting to strangle them...just a suggestion.
What I can help you with is spell check!! If you have MS word or any program on your computer like this you can cut and paste your post (before you submit) it to that program. Let it spell check your post then go to accessories and open up Notepad or Wordpad...which ever you have on your computer and cut and paste it to there. The reason for this is so when you put it back into HW you wont have that huge white background like you see on some other posts who have copied straight from Word. So from Notepad you can cut again and paste it back into HW and your posts will be spell checked....no errors. It sounds like it takes a bit of time but you can have both programs opened in the background so really it only takes a manner of seconds...I hope this helps
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if you did open your mouth and "tell it like it is" what is the worst thing that could happen? would anybody die? will anyone's nose fall off? i doubt it. maybe, just MAYBE, the other people in the group (including the group leader) may benefit.
i have found that most people have low self-esteem, including the ones with big mouths and small tolerance. when one of them starts whining about how cr*ppy their lives are or how life has been unkind to them, i usually am able to "hold my tongue" as you do. every once in a while, i just can't take it any more and open up. it's like, "you think yu've got problems, baby, let me tell you what reality is like." i define reality as when your face hits the floor.
usually, when i do this number, the people just look at me like i'm crazy (they're right). but then, maybe some of that i said may rub off on them. i hope so.
by the way, tex is absolutely right about using a pain psychologist or psychiatrist. i, too. lost my position, income, life, etc., when i fell down a flight of stairs and developed chronic pain. i see a pain management specialist and a psychiatrist to help me deal with these issues. very different than a "run of the mill" shrink.
hope this helps!