We all have our burdens to bear - especially for our children as they are out hearts and soul from the day they are born. I cannot imagine dealing with such a heart wrenching ordeal as what you and your daughter are going through. Have the caught the monster that did this? How is your daughter handling this? What an awful secret she kept for three years.
Whenever someone does something to our children it hurts so deeply that you think you can't breathe and the whole world looks different. I had a nervous breakdown 3 years after my daughter's accident. Prior to that I was so busy just keeping things together for her and the rest of my family that I didn't take care of myself and I was even on antidepressants and going through counseling.
Please continue to take care of yourself. The biggest hurdle I faced was blaming myself for what happened to her. After several times of her telling me that it wasn't my fault, I finally let that burden go.
Please keep us posted on how you are doing because you are early on in the journey of dealing with this.