From a standpoint of having depression and having no friends is that it is imperative that you be A friend!!!!! I have had "acquaintances" that I thought were friends until they needed to be there for me more than I could be there for them, they were no longer. The biggest thing with having a friend with depression is to understand this:
>when you want to talk for hours on the phone and we dont-it is not that we dont want to talk to you it is because maybe our depression keeps us from even wanting to answer the phone
>If you find that you tend to have to share more of the load of being the shoulder, be a bigger shoulder, dont condemn us for not being as good a friend as you are
>When you have great news or have something wonderful happen for you and we seem not to share your excitement, dont take it personal, it is just that we are envious of what you are experiencing because when we experience an event that is that exciting, it is usually the fact that we were able to go a day without a tear.
SO PLEASE.......yes it so hard to be "our" friend and you will sometimes feel unappreciated, believe me when I say this, WE LOVE AND APPRECIATE YOU MORE THAN YOU WILL EVER KNOW!!!!! AND IT IS YOU THAT IS POSSIBLY THE REASON THAT WE LIVE!!! I have no one like this. It is sad and I have not been fortunate enough to have anyone withstand the woes of this illness and has continued to be my best girlfriend even til now.
Good luck to you and remember these things because anyone that reads this will agree that sometimes it is hard just to "be"