Mr. Low and trying2behealthy
I am sorry that you don't get a lot of support from your spouses/partners. I am very lucky in my depression that I have a great husband who is very supportive and understanding.
BUT I do come from a family that has the big "pull yourself up by your own bootstraps" mentality. Quote from my mother "just don't think about
it then"....big help!
I don't want to butt into your relationships, but I have said to people in the nicest way possible .."If it was my
heart/stomach/feet/whatever that didn't work correctly, would you think I could just "make it better"? If I had broken arm with a nice big cast, it would be easier for the world to understand that I can't just make it go away. I can't just will myself better. "
As far as Effexor my experience with that drug was awful, both on it and especially withdrawal. It took a few months, even with Prozac to help me off it, to feel physically normal again. Well as normal as you do when you are battling depression. I was put on it for my PMDD and for a long time I thought it wasn't working, because I was still having bad symptoms (emotional, dizziness, faintness, nausea, etc), then after doing some research I realized it was the Effexor that was causing the symptoms. Then I called the dr and was told by the nurse, "oh yes some people have horrible side effects and very very hard withdrawal"!
trying2behealthy, I agree that you should try to get out. Just a little, I totally isolate when I'm having an especially down day. It is so HARD to make that little effort to get out, but I think a little outside air and limited interaction with others might help you. And remember that you should feel proud of yourself for even taking a shower!
Try to hang in there.