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Date Joined Jun 2006
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   Posted 6/8/2007 3:58 AM (GMT -6)   
 Hello Everybody,
        I have posted here in the past about my brother who has been suffering from depression for
almost 6 months now. A few weeks after it began he was admitted to a psychiatric hospital and he was given 10 sessions of ECT. During that time he walked out of hospital twice and attempted suicide twice and was therefore place in the ICU unit. When he was discharged from hospital in March the doctor still wanted him to continue the ECT treatments about once a week, but my brother became so frustrated with the memory loss associated with ECT that after 2 more treatments of ect, he stopped having them. He has been at home since March and sees a psychiatrist regularly, but to date there has been little to no improvement. He is on meds. but cries daily and he has this obsesion about wanting desperately to work now although he has not worked for many years now. He lives together with my elderly parents and it is having a very bad effect on their health. Whenever I see him at my parents he will talk with me about his worries concerning work and like most people, I have told him to try and forget about work until he is better. He will acknowledge that this is the best thing to do for now and then the next day he will be crying for hours about his lack of work. I feel totally at a loss as to what the family should try to do as the next step. The hospital where he was a patient has people who come and visit patients at home to help them return to the normal routine ,but he has refused to accept their help. My wife suggested that he should be supported in finding some sort of temporary work; but I believe he is in no condition for even voluntary work which his doctor has suggested.
Please; to anyone who has perhaps gone through something similar; perhaps you can suggest what the next step should be. eyes eyes eyes

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Date Joined Sep 2006
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   Posted 6/8/2007 7:05 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi Nucham
I've never been in your position, so I can't really offer much advice I'm afraid.  Is there any chance you could go with him to his next appointment to get some information about how best to support him, see if there is some voluntary work even that may be of help to him.  Or even try and see the psychiatrist alone.
I can only imagine how frustrating this is for you... Does he accept that he needs the help of a pyschiatrist?, if so, perhaps the psychiatrist can reinforce the importance of having the home visits, as it will speed up his return to the work force.
Best wishes
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Date Joined Dec 2005
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   Posted 6/8/2007 7:06 AM (GMT -6)   
I am very sorry that you are going through this.

I am going to say this and I hope I do not upset you. I understand your side about him not being ready. But
He needs to do something that makes him feel worthy. If all he is doing is sitting in the house,and not getting out among people then it is going to be harder for him to get better.
What about helping him find a part time job at first? He will be able to get out of the house,get a little money in his pocket and then give your parents a break for a few hours a day.
Then after he proves to himself and to his family that this is working,then he can move on to finding a full time job.

He has depression,he should not be kept in a room where he is just going to get worse.
I disagree with the doctor. Keeping someone away from people and alone all of the time is just going to give him more time to think about his life...and why he is so depressed.

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Chronic Depression, Panic Attacks,Anxiety Attacks,Anorexia
Meds I have taken throughout the years:Wellbutrin,Tranxene,Paxil,Prozac,Valium,
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Date Joined Jan 2007
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   Posted 6/8/2007 11:59 PM (GMT -6)   
I will say that I have had depression for over 20 years.  I have undergone several in fact almost every treatment there is to relieve this illness.  I also had ECT treatments, for me this was the worst decision I have ever made in my life.  I had a series of 6 treatments and after the 3rd I did inform my doc that i was not feeling like myself.  A month later, I tried to commit suicide and with all my years of depression that was something I always considered every day of my life, I would have never really done.  However I feel the mix of meds and ECT I became someone that was so different from the one before ECT.  For many ECT helps relieve the depression.  Everyone's depression is different and it is hard to tell which methods are going to work.  But one thing is your brother must do it for himself, as I call it "BUCK-UP".  It is the hardest thing in the world to do but he and only him must not lay down and fight.  You cannot fight his battle and believe me, when you love someone, depression can destroy you as well if you dont take care of yourself as well.
The advice I give is this, if your brother indeed does feel a change in personality, extreme change, for me it was a personality that was almost "homicidal", that would be a signal that maybe ECT may not be the treatment.
Good luck to you.

"There is in every true woman's heart a spark of heavenly fire,
which lies dormant in the broad daylight of prosperity;
but which kindles up, and beams and blazes in the dark hour of adversity."
Washington Irving


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