Welcome to the forum,I am very glad that you found us,and I hope you find the support you are looking for.
Darren has given you excellent advice.
I just wanted to add a couple things.
Men are very stubborn. It is like pulling teeth to get them to the doctor. I think it is because that society has taught them to be the strong ones,and they do not like to show weakness. Some will try to keep up with that even if it is tearing the ones they love apart. Now,we as depressed people will also take it out on the ones that we love. I think we do this because we do not feel as though we deserve the love.
You need to take a step back and realize that you can not fix him. You have to keep yourself healthy for your kids.
I suggest you going into counseling for yourself. You should not keep this all bottled up inside that is not fair.
The situation that he is putting you in is not fair...especially when you are going to have 3 small children to worry about
Once you are in therapy,then you can ask him to go. If he refuses then at some point what can you do?
By showing him that his depression is having such a negative effect on you,I am hoping he will follow your lead and get some help.
Keep in mind again,it is going to be very hard for him to admit that he has a problem.
Please stay strong and keep us posted.
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