Posted 6/14/2007 1:29 AM (GMT -6)
I have read some things about depression but not researched it to a full understanding.
Question #1: Is it genetic? I have read some posts here and some of you have said you believe it is genetic. My husband is dealing with depression and I have been trying to get him to get some professional help for almost three years now. We have been married for almost 4 years and I am learning that there are more people in his family who are dealing with some different levels of depression.
His mom had a very serious bout of anxiety and depression two years ago. She finally went to a doctor and then a counselor who put her on anti-anxiety and anti-depressants (sorry, I am not familiar with all the medications so I am not sure which ones).
His uncle (mom's side) is also very depressed but I think for most of his life. (versus my husband's mom who seems to have occassional bouts of anxiety/depression) I think it was more chronic because his grown children have thus suffered and are unfortunately not in very good states in their adult life (one in unstable marriage and other with drug habits).
One of his cousins is also on some type of medication, but I am not sure what kind.
So, is it genetic? Do I need to be concerned about our daugher? Will she also be depressed because of genetics or because she has sensed this from her father and is learning her own behavioral patterns from his state?
Question #2: Is it triggered? In reading some posts, it seems that some of you remember the happy times before depression hit you. I want to believe that my husband also had some happy times in his life so that he can be reminded that he was happy and can be happy. Has it been shown that events (job loss, accident, etc) cause this or is this triggered by a hormonal/chemical inbalance in the body?
I am trying to seriously understand my husband's condition and I am trying to find out what will work to encourage him to get professional help. It seems that most of you post that once a successful combination is found that you do feel better.
I am trying very hard to be there for him as a friend, even though at times as his wife I am so angry with him because he will not get professional help.
Thanks for your help!