My husband and I have been together nine years this month, married for the last six of those years. We have a son that is about to turn two. Shortly after my son was born we were permanently displaced by Hurricane Katrina.
My husband, while he realized that our move was necessary (we have no jobs left in LA, and couldn't afford to rebuild and live in our old home), was terribly homesick, and did not adapt well to life in our new city. He has recently started a new job which has some career promise for him, so life is looking up on that front. However, his homesickness seems to have evolved into full-fledged depression.
My husband is normally a very happy man, and we have had a good a close marriage until recently. Since Katrina, he has become increasingly withdrawn and until this morning, he really hasn't wanted to talk to me about what he is feeling. Sometimes I feel I am the person who is responsible for his depression. I have a very good job here, one that would be hard to find anywhere else, and it would be financially VERY difficult for us to move, but he says he doesn't think that is the problem anymore. He says he doesn't really know why he is depressed
I am afraid that he is unhappy with me, but he won't say so because he is afraid of breaking up our marriage with our young son in the picture. He says he still loves me, and still wants to be married to me and we were always a very happy, close couple before this, but he has become so withdrawn. I don't know what to do to help him (he refuses professional help), and I am terrified that I will lose my marriage.