Please don't let him treat you that way. I don't know if he's unhappy with himself or whatever his problem is. But it is totally unacceptable for him to take it out on you. You are going to have to start standing up to him and let him know that it is unacceptable in your house. You do need to talk with you therapist as to how to go about this. You are a good person and you deserve some "Aurora time" while you are still young enough to enjoy it. I have grown daughters and did go through the problem of alcoholism with my oldest daughter. She is doing very well today. I had to do an intervention when she was 17 and she didn't stay sober. At age 19 she was down in Florida living the fun in the sun life, but called and asked me to put her in treatment again, so I got her back up here and took care of it. It didn't work again. We went through a lot. After I was divorced, she lived with me a couple of times. It came to the point that I asked her for $25 per week for rent. She was working but was falling behind on paying me only $25 a week, which included all utilities, phone, cable, computer, of course I bought most of the food. I finally told her she would have to move because I knew in my gut that she was spending her money on alcohol or possibly drugs. It was one of the hardest things I ever had to do. Today we have a wonderful relationship and she has a beautiful daughter. I know your son has epilepsy, but you can't let him use you as a door mat. I have epilepsy, still not under control and my neurologist is concerned that something else is going on. I'm not taking it out on anyone else. I'm rather anxious as I wait for one of the EEG rooms to come available at Vanderbilt, but I'm not being mean to my family because of it. Aurora, I want to see you take care of you. After the age of 18, we do not really owe our children anything. What we do after that is a gift. Evidently your son has not appreciated your gifts. Now you may read this and get mad at me. I know how it is when someone talks about your children, it's o.k. for you to talk about them, but we don't want anyone else to. Something has to change in your situation. You can email me anytime.
Post Edited (another day) : 7/4/2007 5:27:37 PM (GMT-6)