Posted 7/21/2007 10:53 PM (GMT -6)
let it go. I know I can only control one persons thoughts and actions and that is my own. I try not to let other's hurtful words or atctions affect me. Yes it takes alot of work and coping skills learned through therapy, but I know I need to learn from today and try not to repeat what I feel were mistakes tomorrow. It is my choices I worry about and not others, I can do nothing about them.
We can respond to irritation with a smile instead of scowl, or by giving warm praise instead of icy indifference. By our being understanding instead of abrupt, others, in turn, may decide to hold on a little longer rather than to give way. Love, patience, and meekness can be just as contagious as rudeness and crudeness.

 
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Posted 7/21/2007 11:38 PM (GMT -6)
I agree with Randy about letting it go. Try not to waste any more energy on those people.  We are glad to have you here.  I mostly post on the Epilepsy forum, but pop in here from time to time.  I still deal with depression occasionally, but can still remember when I thought I would never dig my way out of it.  Just know that this group is here for you.
 
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Carla
Posted 7/22/2007 7:59 AM (GMT -6)
Hi there
I think the reason you are so upset about this is because you thought that you had found your safe zone with that site,somewhere that you could express yourself and not be judged. I am sorry that it turned out that way. Some people are so angry and they take it out on others.
I will admit that we have had some problem here with people attacking others,but the mods do a great job of trying to stop it. We will not have it,and it makes me angry when it happens.
We know that people come here for help,and that this is a great resource.
Give us a chance here,there are so many great people that understand and want to help.

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Posted 7/22/2007 9:23 AM (GMT -6)
I totally agree
Let it go
Give us a chance here and you will see the difference
I know I have

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Posted 7/22/2007 9:32 AM (GMT -6)

Hi Drconnoisseur,

I have tried some other sites too, and I like it much better here. I don't think the mods or admin would let that go on here. There's a little yellow icon in the top corner of each post with a ! on it. If you ever read or experience any mean-spirited posts, just click that button and let the admin know. Also, the mods here are really good. The people on the forums I participate in are understanding and respectful of others, but if you run across a "bad apple" just let someone know. I know that mods can "edit" posts (I mostly see that on advertising attempts), but I'm sure if any discussion gets out of hand they can stop that too.

I think you'll find this forum to be so helpful as I have, and I think you're better off being gone from a place like that. I'm glad you found HW, and maybe the incident was a "blessing in disguise" to help you find someplace with more support.

((((Big Hugs)))

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Posted 7/22/2007 10:09 AM (GMT -6)
Thanks, everybody...no, I didn't actually physically get booted off the site, to answer your question, stkitt.  I just quit because I got sick of having all these people gang up on me.  I just don't understand how people can be so cruel in a support forum.  A little bickering is one thing, but I just checked back at the site (yes, I know I should let go, but it's hard sometimes, especially when you're depressed) and they're still going at me, even though I haven't posted there in two days, and even though I did everything I could to ameliorate the situation once it started.  I have so many diseases, I think (I hope) I've learned not to judge others for their problems or how they handle them.  This other forum was a diabetes forum, and I guess I feel they are proving my point.  If they were actually diabetic, they would understand how I feel, and at the very least they wouldn't attack me for it.  I would never tell another diabetic they were stupid for doing something, because I know how tough it is.
 
Argghh.  I know it doesn't sound like it, but I am letting go...slowly.  At least I didn't post any more at the site despite wanting to defend myself.  I'll get over it eventually, but I do think I need to talk to my psychiatrist about my meds, because I think they're starting to poop out after three years.  A year ago I don't think this would have bothered me so much.
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Posted 7/22/2007 4:22 PM (GMT -6)

dr,

everything in the universe l;ives off of energy.  when deprived of that energy, things die.  the angst throuwn at you in that other forum is a living thing.  it is born, it takes in nurishment (other posts), it produces waste products (let's leave the meatphor for this one, huh?), and, eventually. it will die.  everytime you think about that forum, you are giving it energy and precventing it from dieing - thoughts are real.  when you went to "check up" on the forum, you helped it grow.

i am a crotchety old man who upsets people in all forums.  i have been the recipient of such idocies in hw from time to time.  ok, so maybe i may have provoked a few.  :-)    but, basically, we do tend to agree to disagree in hw.  i welcome you with open arms and an open heart.

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Posted 7/23/2007 4:22 AM (GMT -6)
Hi there,
 
I am really sorry about your experiences with other forums, but as many before me have said... let it go. I have seen a few other forums for depression and seen how badly moderated they can be. You can relax here since we are all very friendly and supportive of each other. Also, as mods, we can edit and delete posts which break the forum rules. Me, Els, Family Guy and ShynSassy all moderate Depression (And I know stkitt hangs around too!) and there isd very little that we dont catch between us. You are safe here and we will do our best to make sure you stay safe.
 
I hope you enjoy your time with us, however long that may be
 
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