Rhodiola rosea helped me with energy levels - I was living in a house I hated too by the way (it's better now, but hubby and I are moving anyway). Re. the rhodiola, since I started taking it about a month ago, it's much easier to get out of bed now, and I actually "bound" up the stairs sometimes. It had been so long since I had the energy or desire to 'bound.' LOL. Also, I don't feel like pulling the covers over my head like I used to before taking it either. There is a thread on here about it by sunnivara, posted about a month ago. Hopefully if you do a search, it will come up.
Re. the guy who felt he needed to convert you... it wasn't right how he approached things. It's his own loss if he doesn't question the church and it's doctrines. Personally, I'm a christian, and to try to answer your question, there are a few reasons why people sometimes lack sensitivity and act like this guy sounds to have. As christians, we have found something that has changed our lives and so we naturally want to share it with others. However, along the way, the church comes along and puts tons of pressure on us to 'convert' people and we start acting out of fear and pressure, rather than out of love and just sharing naturally with others. It's not right, but it happens, sadly. Personally, I have had to 'relearn' how to just be myself, and so you're right about the possibility of people coming out of the church brainwashed. Not in all cases, but it can happen. So you've made some solid observataions.
You'll find that within christianity there are many flavors - and that some have found religion, but others have found God. There is a difference, and my personal opinion is that most people who are turned off by the church, are not so much turned off by God but by who the Church institution (in some cases) in all its humaness has misrepresented God to be. In any case I feel there is a strong difference between religion and relationship with God. When you meet those coming out of christianity as a religion, they will often try to force their relgion upon you. The latter will allow you to feel free to choose, loved and called to think on matters, maybe even strongly impressed to choose one way, but not forced. You'll feel invited to explore the possibility of God, rather than forced to.
Hopefully, your next blind date will roll along more gracefully. Nonetheless, yes, I can imagine the conversations you two must have had! But maybe, though hard, there is a hidden blessing for both of you. Sometimes the people that challenge us the most also call us to dig down deeper into the soil of who we are, and grow all the more.
Hope you feel better soon and that things start looking up. all the best, mb