What I mean is, don't let his moods get you down.
Living with a depressive can cause you to become depressed, and this is not a place where you want to be. I've had problems with depression for a long time, and I can see why your husband might act the way he does.
I haven't had the same experience as a close personal relationship that you have, but I may have some ideas for you.
First off, he needs to stay on his medication for at least a year; three months is too short a time. After a year, then you can see if there are still problems and even begin to think about
reducing the dosage or going off medication.
Next, don't ever tolerate physical abuse. If there is physical abuse in a relationship, I would get out of it. For now, if he gets into one of his moods, I would leave him to himself.
I need a lot of alone time, and when I get irritated, I try not to be around other people. I don't mean to be cranky and abusive, but I can't help it, and sometimes take it out on other people when I don't mean to. It's not that he doesn't love you, but if you are nearby and cause a teeny bit of irritation, you become a target and outlet for all the other irritations that are built up.
Try to spend some time with him, and take his mind away from work and other irritations. I suggest a walk, perhaps after supper, and just enjoy the evening, not talking about
things that might turn back into the topics that may set him off. It may be best not to talk at all.
Remember that you can help him, but you can't make his mind up for him. Nagging will only set him off. Hopefully he will stay on his medication, and the cognitive behaviour
al therapy will let him think clearly about
his problems. You don't have to be a sponge for his irritations, that's not fair to you, so I'd suggest letting him stew by himself. Perhaps he's a bit like me in that he needs his alone time as well.
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