dori, it was like you were describing me. I am going through the very same thing. Although, I didn't lose my mother, I am very sorry to hear that. I lost my grandmother 2 years ago. It has really hard and still is. We were very very close and my life almost felt empty without her there for me all the time. So, I can't relate exactly, but I know what you are going through. I am everything you descibed. Sometimes I am ok and I live with it, but sometimes I just break down and cry alot. I don't let anyone know, though. I hold it all inside myself and try my best to hide it, but it is always on my mind and I can't seem to get past it. I haven't tried medication because I usually have bad side effects to meds so I was afraid to try anything just yet. If I were being honest with myself it is probably because I don't want anyone to know.
I just want to let you know that I am 16, in high school and with that comes pressure yea, but it is really hard when the people around me everyday talk about how some people are crazy in there minds or take 'happy pills' and that kind of stuff. I just want to smack them and tell them straight that they are so wrong. They don't know how we feel and say hurtful things without knowing. I would tell them, but I am afraid they would think I were crazy or something. They talk about people alot an I am afraid they will talk about me, but eventually I want to tell them and be an advocate. I want to speak out to my community and teach them that it is ok and it isn't something that people should hide(like I am doing) and that they shouldn't say the things they say.
Sorry, I am getting off track, that seems to happen to me alot, I am sure you understand...anyways, I am not sure what I can say to help. I am in counseling myself. Which helps while I am there, but other than that it doesn't really help. I just try to live everyday thinking that the next will be better. I know I have good and bad days. I try to take advantage of my good days because I don't have many of them. I can always tell the difference. I can't imagine it being any worse for me, but I know it could be worse no matter how bad it gets so I do my best to appreciate that it isn't worse.
I wake up everyday hoping that I am my old self again, but honestly I don't want to be my old self. I want to be a new self. I want to be better than I was and use this experience and everything I have been through to my advantage.
I really hope you can find some relief. I know how it is to be frustrated at it because you just want it to go away so you can feel better. I just keep hoping it will. When and if the time is right it will happen, it will get better. I hope you get better soon.