looking for some advice and support about a loved one suffering from depression

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Date Joined Sep 2007
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   Posted Yesterday 8:14 PM (GMT -6)   
iv recently discovered my boyfriend is suffering from depression, i am looking fr some advice on how to halp him. he is not recieving any help at the moment.

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   Posted Today 3:13 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi Mary and Welcome to Healingwell.
I am glad that you have found us here and I hope that you find all the support you need. There are loads of people on HW that have partners/spouses with depression so there should be a mine of experience. Unfortunately, in terms of experience, I cannot help you but I am curious as to how long your b/f has had depression and how old he is. Is he not receiving treatment by choice? If his depression is affecting his life then he should be talking to someone about it so that it doesnt escalate. Sometimes AD's can help give people a boost which helps them get the most out of talking therapy.
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   Posted Today 7:02 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi Mary
Welcome to the forum.

Dealing with depression is very hard,from both sides that is for sure. And you have to make sure that it does not take it's toll on you also.

I think the best way to help,is to be informed yourself. Knowing what the symptons are,what to look for and then encouraging him to go to the doctor once that need is there.
I found some info for you:



Good Luck and keep us posted

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   Posted 9/21/2007 5:35 PM (GMT -6)   

hi mary.  i have been dealing w/ depression and anxiety for as long as i can remember...i remember at age 5 being depressed and anxious.  my best advice to you is to not get mad or angry, and realize it has nothing to do w/ you or your relationship.  loved ones oftentimes take it personally, but i believe depression is completely organic and related to chemical imbalances w/in the body.  when someone can't see, they wear glasses.  when someone is depressed, they seek treatment.  just try to be understanding, and what you are doing now is so great.  education about the illness will help him more than you know.  i think if you offer to help him find a therapist -- maybe sit in the waiting room the first session just to let him know you accept him, and you don't think he is being weak or inadequate.  its so ok to need help, and i hope he is able to find someone!

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Date Joined Feb 2007
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   Posted 9/24/2007 10:07 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi Mary , my name is also Mary....
welcome I hope you can find some strength from this forum as I have
My husband has depression, and is fianlly diagnosed, and on meds,
prior to that
life was not very productive, or enjoyable for him or any one around or near to him
He thought how he felt was "normal"
he ahd no idea people wher happy, peaceful, loving & living life to the max.
he was always depressed, for amny eyars
never knew what it was like to not be depressed
i hope
you can encourage your b/f to see & talk to someone
who specializes in health care
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