I am going to have a nervous breakdown before this is all over I think....
First for those that do not know. My X husband has full custody of my son. I had to move 2 hours away from my X due to mental and physical abuse even after we were divorced.
My son called me on Sunday,they had a huge blowout at their house and his step mom freaked out and took her girls and left.
I guess it was pretty bad.
I did not tell my son what he wanted to hear,I told him that he is 17 and my daughter will be 20 and they need to grow up and stop fighting and that I do not blame his step mom because her little ones do not need to be around that.
My son stopped taking his med in July...no one would give me a straight answer on that,I knew something was not right but he did not want to tell me. He claims the med does not work.
Now his dad is calling me and is telling me that my son is out of hand and that they have to do something because none of them can live like that.
I am so frustrated because my daughter is saying things like "your son wants to control everyone,your son won't let the argument stop and he will follow you from room to room and beat on the door if you try to lock yourself away ect ect.
I told her that is what his dad did for 13 years!!! I don't understand why she does not see it.
I told his dad last night that I know what my son is capable of because I lived it. That is why he can't live with me. I told his dad that I asked for his help several times and all I heard was "it's not my fault that you can't handle your son".
He just basically ignored me. He made this monster,and now he can't accept it.
Bottom line is this, they made an appointment to start counseling again next Wednesday. His counselor does not think it is because he is not taking his med because he is getting straight A's in school and if it was the med he would be having problems at school and at work,which he is not.
He is a very angry and controlling kid,so he has to go to counseling and try to act right or he has to move out. The X called my brother last night to see if that was a possibility to live with him,I am still waiting on an answer for that.
I am waiting to find out what is going to happen. If he goes to my brother's I am calling child support and getting that sent to my brother..the X claims that he will write a check to my brother every month for the child support,but I don't trust him at all.
My b/f keeps saying that this is not my problem...he doesn't get it at all.
I can't have my son live with me,no matter where I am. That makes me feel horrible. But at some point I have to know my limits. I have been med free now for 2 years and I refuse to go back to where I was before.
I am 120lbs,he is almost 300 and when that kid decides I am in his line of rage,I really can't do anything.
If he starts again at the house the counselor told them to call the police. Since he has a record,he will go straight to Meyer Hall. That scares me to death.
When we lived together he took a baseball bat to me, I had no choice but call the police who took him. That was after the police being there several times with him going after me,I was always afraid to let them take him,but I did not have any choice that time.
I have been trying to get a hold of him all night,and now this morning but no one answers the phone. I just need to hear his voice,know he is ok and hoping that he has decided to make the right decision.
All they are asking him is to go to counseling and act like a human being simple as that.
We are going there on Saturday,maybe Friday night if I don't get an answer from someone before that. I can't sleep,I am ready to explode!
Thanks for letting me vent...
Chronic Depression, Panic Attacks,Anxiety Attacks,Anorexia
Meds I have taken throughout the years:Wellbutrin,Tranxene,Paxil,Prozac,Valium,
Have been med free for 2 years now.www.healingwell.com/donate
How can you talk without a brain?
I dunno...but alot of people talk without a brain don't they?
Dorthy and the Scarecrow-Wizard of Oz
Post Edited (ShynSassy) : 10/24/2007 6:13:08 AM (GMT-6)