Posted 10/25/2007 10:59 AM (GMT -6)
Chat Rooms on HW are meant as a venue for discussion of particular illnessess with ppl who understand and care about what you are going through. They provide a way of getting to know people who can offer advice and friendship. This concept often works quite well.Chats can be uplifting, and humorours too. I am often in a depressed mood when I begin chatting and find myself happy and less stressed out after chatting. So what's the problem?
I compare chat rooms to adult high schools. Were you one of the popular ones in high school? Did the other kids rush to be around you.Did you belong to that popular clique? No? Well you might revisit those ackward high school moments in some HW chats.
I have found myself on the "outs" in many chats, not because I do not have a particular illness, but rather because I found the conversation to be very gossipy or offensive. And I admitt to being a part of this behavior when I am in an "up" mood.
We have depression. Our emotional state can quickly change. If we are not quick with a joke or a quip are we not welcome in some particularr chat rooms. Sometimes the answer is no. All too often, A-type personalities take charge leaving the shy chatter in the corner.Sound like high school?
So what's my beef? Maybe chatting isn't for everyone. It probably helps to pick your rooms and know the personalities in them. But why can't the stronger more outgoing people make the effort to include those of a more reserved nature? It does happen. But not as frequently as might be expected.
All to often the strong dominate the weak. Being outrageous and obnoxious is sometimes a plus in chat rooms. While the quite may have more to say and be more interesting, they are drowned out by the loud bellow of a few. The pressure is on to be popular too.
Who wants to be known as the shy fly on the chat room wall? The quiet quipless? Not likely.
So are people who have fun in chatrooms like the high school "in group"? No i don't think so. So what is the answer? Buyer beware is the answer. All is not as it appears on the screen. You have to pick your friends. They are there waiting for you....funny, caring, sincere,helpful and loyal. They will take your hand in time of crisis. They will share a laugh at life's absurdities. They will be there for you. They are your true friends.
Please share your chat room experiences.
Diag: Recurrent major depression, with panic and gereralized anxiety.
Post Edited (veteran1) : 10/26/2007 12:20:10 PM (GMT-6)