Relationship Depression

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Date Joined Nov 2007
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   Posted 11/8/2007 3:32 PM (GMT -6)   
This might seem like an all too common topic, but I am desperate for some help. I have been in a relationship for over three years now, and it is unhealthy. In many ways we are two very compatible people, but on the other hand, disagree on many things regarding support and comfort for each other. To make matters worse, we are about 500 miles away [he is trying to find work where I am to move as soon as possible]. I love this person so much and feel him a family member more than a significant other. However, our difference of opinions and perspectives have been causing 50% of our conversations to be in argument. To make things worse, he is battling depression and I am partly depressed due to having some health issues. So, I feel like in some instances, our relationship is not stable because niether of us is. In fact, it is only making both of us feel worse at times. But then, trying to split up or be independant from each other only leads to more depression. In a lot of ways I want to be able to just seperate myself from him, but 2 years of trying [here and there] has not done anything. And other levels of our relationship have strengthened while others have worsened. It truly seems impossible to get over this person. Maybe deep inside I just can't let go, and to be honest, I don't know that I have the will power or energy to put into trying to get over him...therefore, continuing this cycle of ups and downs.

Any advice, anything please. I'm tired of it even affecting my health and don't want to feel so bad. But I love this person so much and have invested so much love, time, patience and support that I can't just walk away so easily.

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Date Joined Dec 2005
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   Posted 11/9/2007 8:07 AM (GMT -6)   

Relationships are hard,throw in the miles that separate you and it makes it 100% harder.

Have you two always lived apart?

The only advice I can give is asking yourself if this relationship is pulling you both deeper in depression because you are in it...or is it because you are not together?

Mod- Depression

Chronic Depression, Panic Attacks,Anxiety Attacks,Anorexia
Meds I have taken throughout the years:Wellbutrin,Tranxene,Paxil,Prozac,Valium,

Have been med free for 2 years now.

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