Dear bogiebacall (Heather),
Thank you for sharing your grief and story with me. I truly hope that one day you will be able to celebrate the Holy Day with joy again. I know that you must have loved your father greatly and that losing him at age 11 is the hardest time for a little girl to be left by her father.
Our family is dealing with my mother's death by using her birthday to Celebrate Family. We have planned a gathering at my father's house where we will all bring food to share. We are looking forward to visiting with brothers, sisters, cousins, nephews, nieces, and Opa, of course. Our mother will be there in Spirit and much in the conversation. I cry in private, but I hope to be able to laugh with the family. On her last birthday, we all contributed our Mom stories that we put together into a little book. It is such a source of happy memories now.
Do you have happy memories of your father? Would it help to write them down in a journal for yourself? Do your brother and sister still remember their experiences with him? Celebrating those members of our family who are still with us is what is making the impending birthday a little more bearable for me. I hope this helps you too.
Thank you again, Heather, because without your letter I would not be in a hopeful state of mind today.